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[quote=Anonymous]Do you stay in touch with them between visits, if you only see them once or twice a year, OP? We live in th US and my in-laws are all in another country but  we stay in touch with them so know them well. That helps.

I think your issue may be that you feel you're expected to be all in on hugging and "smooching" from the minute you marry into the family. That's their style and maybe not your style -- but it has little to do with love. You can love them and not be a demonstrative, kissing type of person towards them.

How long have you been married? Try finding common interests with them and communicating more often and you may like then greatly even if you'd not call it love. It's OK not to love them but it's a pity if you miss out on friendship and common ground with them due to not really communicating.

For the record, I do love my in-laws though most of them I see only once a year. My MIL died very recently and she was someone I loved very much. I think my spouse's uncle and aunts and sister are all incredibly sweet, smart, thoughtful people I admire and love. Maybe it helps that I've been married a long time so know them well. And FYI, they're not a huggy, kissy bunch and that's OK with me--though I'm a demonstrative one![/quote]

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