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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did this with a BPD sibling. It turned into them yelling and blaming me the entire time, quitting going to sessions, and them blaming me for it not going anywhere.

I'd say it was still semi productive - I got some validation knowing I tried, and it solidified me not wanting much to do with them going forward. [/quote]
This was my experience. It was apparent from the beginning that the therapist was trying to make me the scapegoa and the cause of all of my mom’s problems. There wasn’t any indication that this therapist was trying to help my mom with herself, but rather, change the rest of us. The funniest part was my mom convinced the therapist that my dad had anger issues and needed medication. Well, yes. He’s angry he has to put up with your narcissistic BS!

I left laughing, but knowing things would never change, but I felt I was granted permission to not care anymore. And I don’t. [/quote]

If your mother is a covert narcissist, they are hard to diagnose, as they come across as the victim and are oftentimes given meds for depression.  Your dad is most likely reaching his limits.  Some co-narcs (or co-dependents) stay in that role forever. Others - like me, for example - figure it out and cut the ties.

The therapist sucked!  You're a victim - or were a victim. Initially, it's hard, as leaving a narc behind is like a death. So you're depressed, angry, sad, resentful . . . until you fully heal.  The goal is to NOT pass along any of this to your own kids.  Figure out your triggers b/c you'll have some; trust me on that.

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