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[quote=Anonymous]Did he offer anything like some money toward the wi-fi bill, electricity, water--? I can see how if it's truly a few days at a time that seems petty but if I were in his shoes I'd at least offer something toward utilities if I made this request. That would be considerate and demonstrate an awareness that he does more than sleep there. You don't have to take the money but I'd hope he'd at least offer out of courtesy.

In your shoes I would definitely tell him that his towels and sheets are his responsibility to wash. I'll wash a guest's linens of course but if he's a regular part of the household he'd need to wash his own linens. I'm assuming he doesn't expect you to wash his clothes!

What are the food arrangements? What do you do now when he stays with you? He won't be a guest if it's a regular arrangement. It might prevent any future misunderstandings if you, DH and BIL agree clearly on things like whether he gets his own fridge in the walk-out basement or he pays X dollars toward food or he buys all his own food and just has space in your fridge....Will he expect to cook? Do you think he'll expect to eat with the family at least sometimes?

I think the idea is fine but I also suggest you all work out these kinds of basic day to day things in advance. Little things like finding food you had counted on to serve for dinner is gone, or the washer is full of wet towels, etc., can sour an otherwise good arrangement, so to keep things good, it helps to be clear about expectations instead of making assumptions. [/quote]

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