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[quote=Anonymous]Totally take them up on the “go about your business” and get OUT!  It sounds like you stay at home and possibly have little ones.  
#1 insist DH at least comes home at decent times.
#2 Make arrangements to go out every day beyond the 5th day you gave them.  Tell them you’re sorry but you weren’t expecting guests and had made prior plans which is why you gave them the availability window that you did.
#3 If you have to stay home, have a project that you must finish on a deadline.  If you don’t work, make it a family project “I really have to edit photos for my Aunt Rose because she’s making a book.  I knew I’d be holed up once the kids go back to school to get it done but we were expecting you for such a long visit.”
#4 Be helping a friend with a project (“Ann simply HAS to get her dining room painted before she hosts her husband’s birthday  so I promised to help this week.  Bye!”) that you need to go to her.  If kids are home, leave them to baby sit.  If they are in school, leave the ILs home to entertain themselves just like they said.

Mostly you need to let them see you made time for them for 5 days but then they are imposing for the other 5.  If they think you only gave that window arbitrarily then they will abuse it again.  Even if you have to make up something, be busy those days.  Ideally don’t even come home for meals - have friends meet you for play dates that you TOTALLY had scheduled beforehand.  Have a bunch of girlfriends come over for something. [/quote]

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