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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m visiting my parents with my kids this weekend.   I’ve noticed that my mom keeps making passive aggressive digs at me.   They range from her letting me know (passively) that I’ve aggrieved her, to her pointing out my shortcomings (from however long ago) in bizarro ways.  For example, earlier today she passively aggressively “confided” in me that my sister in law makes her feel bad when she scrutinizes her grandparenting “and your sister in law is even worse about ithat than you are!”   Ummm.  She never directly told me she thought I scrutinized her grandparenting.  Wtf.  What do you even say to that?  I just ignored it but it pissed me off.   [b]Or she’ll mentione that she was recently talking with my elementary school teacher and said elementary school teachers jaw nearly dropped when she told her I was in A successful field.  Wtf?  Again, what to say to that?[/b]   Sure, I was a late bloomer (like, late as in 5th grade) but have been a successful student [b]and high achiever for over 30 years.[/b]  Ugh.   Venting.  But it just makes me sad.  And pissed.  And guilty that I don’t want to talk with her because I have to keep dodging these bitter comments from her. [/quote]

Hey, if I heard that, I'd be saying "goes to show you never can tell!"  This coming from someone who the G&T (which I think I squeaked by into, by the way, because I'm not G and any T that I have I learned by making mistakes) teacher said "Well then you're just stupid" to.  I couldn't spell ngineer and now I are one.

and..."high achiever for over 30 years" - and so modest too!

wait, your old elementary school teacher must be like, on social security by now.  That was a LONNNNG time ago.

all kidding aside....your mom is getting older.  Brain plasticity.  Memories, interpretations, cognitive stuff, they shift with time.  The good can get mediocre, the mediocre can get bad, the bad can get intolerable.  Its why "honor thy mother and father" is a thing...if it were easy all the time it wouldn't need to be a commandment.  You are a grown up now, you can let things roll of your back, even when they come from your parents.  She's not your boss.  Make sure she knows you love her and dont take the comments personally.  Thats a choice you can make.[/quote]

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