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[quote=Anonymous]DH has had a fairly bumpy career trajectory, but he went back to school for additional graduate training, and for the last few years he has been working a solid, but not very inspiring, job. He came to me and said he would like to finish a master’s in this field, and I agreed that it would be something to pursue part time. We disagreed about the financing it though, and I encouraged him to take a class or two at a time and to pursue tuition remission through his employer.

He apparently was not satisfied with that and went to his parents for the money and had extensive conversations about it with them without telling me. His parents agreed to pay for it, and he told me about it when it was all arranged. He said this will benefit all of us, so I do not have a reason to be upset. These are the same parents who never once asked if I was okay when our DS was very little and their son was unemployed and who have consistently made little to no effort with him. I feel like DH is condoning this behavior by going to them and that he is undervaluing our marriage by not discussing this with me first.

I also had hoped that if DH had to seek tuition remission, etc he would take the whole thing more seriously and be proactive about career advances. Now I am not so sure. I can see someone saying it is their money, their decision, but I feel very uncertain about my relationship
with DH.

Thanks for any suggestions.

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