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[quote=Anonymous]  I am the one closest (quickest drive) dealing with the issues hands on and I have become the "mean mom" to stubborn elderly parents acting resentful (and have my own kids) while my brother and sister have become the golden kids who swoop in and get very little of the obnoxious behavior. No, they are not going to take on more and sadly they enjoy their new "halos" so much they are not going to rock the boat. I used to have a much more pleasant relationship with my parents before their health declined.

I think caring for our elderly parents helps us be at peace when they do pass. I used to think it would be unbearable when I lose them, but when the day comes down the line I think they will have grown more and more hostile and unhappy and I will know they are finally at peace and no longer so miserable. I had developed a friendship with them in adulthood, but that has changed and now I'm a parent to parents who act like toddlers or adolescents and a parent to actual tweens.

Oh and to be clear they don't live with me, so I am no saint. It is just a battle every step of the way from the car keys to retirement to accepting a nurse's aide to taking them to appointments and getting things in place. I am fortunate I don't have to use my own money, they saved well for retirement, but the emotional toll is draining and I have my own family. I take care of myself, but really can't help but wonder if I should have lived much farther away and I daydream about a different life.[/quote]

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