Reply to Unwanted divorce

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Unwanted divorce"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Married, kids, husband wasn't happy because I didn't give him enough attention when the kids were little. He cheated. I changed/fixed absolutely

It has been 7 years since we divorced, and in those 7 years, he has shown me who he truly is as a person. He is a selfish individual who is not willing to compromise his own preferences and comfort for anyone, ever. There were times early in the divorce when I mourned the life that I wanted to build with him. As time went on and he demonstrated more and more what a selfish person he is, he stopped seeming familiar to me at all. At this point, he feels like a stranger that I happen to have a child with - a stranger who, if given the option today, I wouldn't even accept a second date with.

Right now, you look at him and see the person you married. I am here to tell you that he is not that person, if he ever was. He is someone else. The sooner you are able to see who he truly is, the sooner you will be able to move on. [/quote]

OP here. This part is very useful, thank you. 
We've been married a long time. This is not who he was until the last few years. He has completely and totally changed. He has a lot of baggage from childhood that he never dealt with and it has affected us. But again, he finds a way to turn all of his pain back on to me.

I know that if this was a friend telling me the story, I would have no problem telling her to get the hell out. Why isn't it that easy for me?! If you knew me, you wouldn't see this weakness in me. I don't project "doormat" but somehow that's what I have turned into, I guess. [/quote]

"I changed/fixed absolutely everything".  OP He cheated on you early on. Yes this is who he is and kept cheating during your so called good times.

Your self esteem was so low you were convinced you had to change. Not only that, but you failed to check up on him to make sure he changed. He didn't and never had plans to.  Let him go OP.

At this point you need to be proactive.  Have you talked to a lawyer?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics