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[quote=Anonymous]1 - take a deep breath and remind yourself that "this too shall pass"

2 - in the example above, you and DH sit down to dinner at the table set for 2. If kids come to the table, let them know then can join you when porch is swept/when dishwasher is loaded.  Say it calmly and begin to eat.

3 - if dinner is over and they didn't do their chores, clean up.  Let them know they missed their opportunity for dinner, and breakfast will be at xx O'clock, which will be their next opportunity to eat.  No snacks, no nothing.  To join you for breakfast, chores must be done.  They won't starve to death, I promise.

4 - two things to remember:  1- they are getting something out of your reaction (yelling).  Maybe its attention, maybe they like to push your buttons, maybe making you mad is just "fun." Whatever.  If you can stay calm, firm and friendly, you they won't get the reaction (even a negative one) that they are looking for/expecting.  2 - Imagine if it was someone at work who didn't do what was expected.  Would you lose it and scream at them? Probably not.  You would express disappointment and move on.  Try the same at home.  You can't fire your kids, but you can express disappointment (firm and friendly, and CALM!).

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