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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both of my older siblings are bossy.  They mean well but it was very hard for them to view me as an adult until I was well into my 30s and our relationships suffered as a result.  I managed it by drastically reducing the amount I communicated with them.  The less they knew about my life, the less they could "advise" on.

When I got married, something seemed to click into place for them and they finally backed off a bit with the bossiness.  Now we can actually talk about our lives without it devolving into "you need to do this, you need to do that" discussions.[/quote]

Your siblings grew up!  Sometimes, that never happens, sadly.[/quote]

No - her siblings were prejudiced against single people and once she or was married deemed her worth communicating to as an equal.

I am the single youngest in my family and my family values me so little it is ridiculous. It is absurd how much better I get treated when I am in a relationship.[/quote]

First PP here and I agree with this assessment.  Both of my siblings (sisters, FWIW) got married before 25 so they couldn't relate to me still being single at 30.  For them, getting married was when they felt like they entered adulthood and they couldn't or wouldn't comprehend that I could both have my act together as a "real" adult AND be single.  When I finally met DH and got married, I guess I finally checked that last box on the "Are you ready to enter adulthood?" checklist they had so they let me into their club.  [/quote]

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