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[quote=Anonymous]The primary issue is his personality and he’s in dire need of counseling.  Insist on it.  He needs to get his physiological health under control so he can move forward.

You and DH need to be a team.  DH needs to back you and stand up to his adult son.  Rudeness is unacceptable at any age.  Call him out on it every time.  Insist that he contribute to the household (your husband needs to back you on this) with maintenance and regular chores. I would honestly cancel cable and even internet (though that hinders job search, I know) so there is no incentive to sit around at home.

I would suggest to try to be optimistic with him (even if you have to fake it) and show faith in him for now.  That doesn’t mean enabling him but rather helping him sort through his life.  He’s reached a very low point and probably has little self-esteem left.  Clearly if he was an honors university student he has some abilities that he’s losing sight of.  That’s why counseling is necessary to help him stop sabotaging the jobs he does get with his skills.[/quote]

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