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[quote=Anonymous]Yes there are many of us in the same boat.

The first thing you'll have to do is ditch the image in your head about the perfect mom on tv. The vast majority of parents are flawed, even very flawed.

I'd struggled with similar issues. Dad was engaging, would talk about anything I wanted to talk about, but mom, not so much. I'd mention a major achievements at work, international travels, etc., and her response would often be silence, or a total change of subject, or she'd interrupt me to tell me to eat more food. It drove me crazy.

But, during the most stressful times of my life, like the first 8 weeks of my second child's life when I really struggled, she was a rock and came to me unbidden and stayed by my side until the worst of it was over.

It took me a long time to realized that we were never going to be able to see eye to eye on most things, yet I wasted so much energy arguing with her and getting upset at her. During the last 6 months of her life I was still searching for answers. In the end I didn't get them, but it really didn't matter, b/c ultimately she was there for me, and she knew I loved her and she loved me, and that's what I'm holding onto.[/quote]

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