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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone had luck getting their DH to take on more of the household tasks such as updating shopping lists, arranging camps for children, finding a pediatrician, planning a party or meals for the week -- things that require research and planning?

For those who do not know what I'm talking about, it's called women's invisible labor, and it's been widely discussed in the news media -- for example, http://time.com/money/4561314/women-work-home-gender-gap/

When I discuss with DH, he gets defensive. He points out that he does more than most men, and he points out all the things he does, as if I'm attacking him. I just need him to take on a greater load of executive functioning tasks. I've bowed out of certain areas, and then nothing happens in those areas (and they are important tasks related to school, home maintenance, and our family relations.) We both work full-time, and I'm tired.

Has anyone found a good way to get a man to take on more of the mental workload required to run a home and a family? I am interested in very practical approaches. I am not asking my DH to do things perfectly. I'm OK with stepping back and letting him do things his way. I just can't continue to be the one who has to remember and delegate and remind. Thank you!
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This is mental work? LoL! Making a grocery list and scheduling camps? Do you have a job for paid income? I'd like to know how you manage a real project I'd this is mental eork.

Can my DH claim mental work when he does a home improvement project because he spends a ton of time researching when he does that. How about when he plans the spring and fall gardens and tends to that? Another heavy mental load. :lol: [/quote]

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