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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op Here.  Thanks for the replies..  I guess my real question is am I a terrible person if I just cut her out of my life completely?  I don't see the value our minimal relationship brings at this point and causes me stress and anxiety in my own life that I don't need.[/quote]

[b]You don't even really need to cut her off in some formal way.  Just stop calling her, unless you want to.  If you don't, don't.  I don't believe in grand pronouncements about these things.  It if makes you miserable to talk to her, don't call her.[/b]  [/quote]

Yes that.  No big "I'm cutting you off" speeches.  Just stop reaching out as frequently.  Stop returning phone calls as quickly.  Make more time in between visits.  If she asks why, don't give a reason.  But also don't modify your behavior to assuage guilt.  It's ok to just sort of let things fade a bit while maintaining low contact and seeing how it feels.  You can always ramp it back up if you want to.

The problem with big "i'm cutting you off" speeches is that it can be very final.  This gives you the room to ramp up, or further pull away, if that's what you want as you go forward.[/quote]

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