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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have relatives who live less than an hour from me.  I see them about once a year, and each time they always invite me to come out to their house.

Here's why I don't want to get together with them:

- They are rich; I am poor.  They basically go on a trip six to nine times a year. I basically go on a trip every six years.  To stand there for an hour listening to them talk about their 25th Disney cruise when I have zero interest in Disney is exhausting.  
- They do not stop talking about themselves. They have no idea if I work, what kind of work I do, if I'm in school, if I like to read, see movies, plays, go to museums, baseball games, anything.  Because they have literally never asked even once about my interests or hobbies or how I spend free time, or anything about me.
- I was warned by other relatives that they are collectors and I would find their house overwhelming (they don't just have a doll room and a train room, but dolls and trains all over their house).  They sound like hoarders to me. I am a minimalist.
- Related to the above, I do not have a car, and would be at their whim for getting back to the ferry to get home.  They wound find me rude if I ordered an Uber. ONCE, they very kindly saw I was going to leave a family party and head home on my own and they said, "Oh wait, we'll drive you, just want to ask Host a question."  So I waited.  TWO HOURS.  They had no question for Host - they just wanted to chat with him.  They, and I, were the very last ones to leave that party, by over an hour. So never again will I let myself be put in that position. 
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Maybe this is the issue - you think you are better than they are.[/quote]

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