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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there anyone else out there that has come to the realization that grandchildren are not happening?  Are you having a hard time dealing with it?  I had my children young and just assumed that I would be a young grandparent.  I'm 57, kids are 37 and 32 and neither want kids.  I realize it's their decision and no one should have kids if they don't want them, kids are tough.  I don't bug them to have children but I have to admit that it makes me really sad.  A huge thing that I thought would fill and give some purpose to the remainder of my life is not happening.  I love babies, children and teenagers and was looking forward to experiencing all of the fun stuff again without the day to day responsibilities.  I have lots of grand nieces and nephews but it isn't the same.  And yes, I have a life, career, a husband that I love etc. but so much that I was looking forward to as part of getting older is not happening.  And of course, this means no great grandchildren either.  [/quote]

I know this may be painful for you but I think this better than my painter's situation in which his unmarried 21 year old is pregnant.    To help you get over this situation keep repeating to yourself that your kids have their own lives and it is better for them to remain childless rather to bring a child into the world just to make you a grandmother.    How would you feel if your parents told you that you made a mistake because you had kids when you were young OR pressured you to have kids when you didn't.  My grandma told my mom only to have two kids so she did the opposite and had the third kid.

Keep repeating the mantra..it isn't my life.  Repeat.

I suggest you find kids who do need grandmotherly love.  Does it really matter if they aren't related?[/quote]

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