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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean, that hasn't worked?[/quote]

I mean, we dated for a while, fooled around heavily, and they were pushing me to have sex with them. When I told them that if I slept with them I would want us to be exclusive and in a relationship (not just going on dates and having sex a few times a month), they bailed.[/quote]

Op here. More details as summary above isn't quite accurate.

I said I needed it to be exclusive fairly early on. We went on more dates after that, went pretty far physically. But they never agreed to be exclusive but kept trying to get me to sleep with them. When I restated that I needed exclusivity and a relationship, not just casual dating, they bailed within a week.

This has happened with three men. Before these men, I've been in six relationships with men with whom I had sex. All those men actually were the ones who raised exclusivity and the relationship just sort of developed. Now I feel like all the men I am meeting just want to sleep with me right away, don't want exclusivity, want to keep things very casual, and are very entitled to sleep with me despite any sort of commitment.[/quote]

NP here. You're doing it right, you just haven't met the right men.[/quote]

Op here. Thanks. I hope that's the case. Part of me is wondering, do I just need to start sleeping with men earlier and without exclusivity and hope it leads to a relationship? But I just don't feel comfortable doing that, either from a health or emotional perspective.[/quote]

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