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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's risky because I've seen it lead to a lot of relationships that lasted well past their expiration date.  Living with someone creates a ton of inertia, because breaking up isn't just an emotional drain, it's a logistical pain.  You can't just stop seeing someone--you have to find a new place and  pack up your stuff and move out.  You might both be on a lease.  You have to divide up your stuff.  You have a pet together.  Your whole daily routine will change.  So people stay together when they should break up--I've even seen people get married out of inertia when literally everyone else knew it was a terrible idea, because it was just easier than breaking up.

I also think you both really need to be on the same page about the future.  If one of you thinks that moving in together means you're on the road to marriage and the other doesn't, there are problems.  A relationship can stagnate, and the one who's happy with things the way they are has no reason to change, and the one who isn't has a lot more to lose.

Moving in together to save money on rent or something is a bad idea.

FWIW, I lived with my now-husband for just under six months before we got engaged.  We had talked about and were on the same page wrt how serious the relationship was and how we felt about marriage.  [/quote]

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