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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a biological child who is older and my younger is adopted.

These are thoughtful questions and I would encourage you to contact an adoption agency and talk it through with an adoption social worker.  They will not judge you - on the contrary they will praise you for taking the process seriously and help you think through what will work for your family.  They have seen so many more situations than I have - so they could address your concerns more fully.

Our adopted child is the same race as us and it does make life easier.  If you adopt a child of a different race it is called a "conspicuous adoption" - here is a course you can take to learn more - http://www.adoptionlearningpartners.org/catalog/courses/conspicuous-families.cfm

There is no right or wrong - there is just what will work for your family.

We are in a semi-open adoption.  We exchange letters and photos through the agency.  All of our contact has been amazing.  The birth mom writes us about once a year to say how much she loves the photos and how proud she is of how we are raising our child.  Everyone in an adoption has a different story to tell.

We adore our adopted child.  We have zero regrets.  I wish you all the best.[/quote]

Openness is agreed upon between the adoptive parents and the birth family.  You figure out a plan together.  The adoptive social worker is there to help you figure this out.

SN stands for special needs.

Another really good book we read during the home study was Raising Adopted Children.  It addresses a lot of the beliefs people have about adoption and breaks down why they are true or not true.  For example, you will hear adopted children are more likely to end up in therapy.  The book indicates this is true - but probably has more to do with adoptive parents having contact with social workers during the adoption process and developing a belief that reaching our for help is good - and does not necessarily mean adopted children have more issues.

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