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[quote=Anonymous]DD is 8 and in 2nd grade.  I was surprised by how early the petty meanness seems to be starting, as I don't remember this until 6-7th grade from my childhood. Nothing that is bullying behavior, but little snarks and friendship, power-control drama.  A few examples: "You can't be friends with her if you want to be my friend..." "I am the queen witch and I say that Betty, Sue and Jean can have special powers but Jane can't."  "You can't be in our group because you're not blonde."  and "You have to play with me! If you don't play with me, I'm going to tell the teacher you pushed me and you'll get in trouble."

DD goes to a private and there are only about 25 girls in her grade.  About half of them seem to struggle with their social skills in ways that manifest in these sorts of statements.  Only 2 of these girls seem to really have the mean-girl personality and seem like they may be a longer-term challenge (I'm a volunteer coach at the school, so I know most of the girls reasonably well).  DD hasn't seemed too bothered by this so far. She actually seems to have a healthy degree of skepticism about these sorts of things and doesn't seem to take them personally, but she experienced a lot of them in the last week and its starting to get her down.

Is this sort of behavior pretty normal now?  What are some of the things you say to your DD about these sorts of behaviors?

So far, I talk about the value of kindness and what makes someone a good friend and how it's OK to walk away and find someone else to play with until Larla is ready to be kind again. Looking for any other useful insights.

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