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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is the deal? I know a lot of these posts and comments are probably trolls, but there seems to be a lot of legitimate cheaters. To the serial cheaters, why are you getting married and having kids? You had to know that you weren't marriage material before you got married. Like "well I am kinda a hoe, so maybe I shouldn't make any vows." Then you just ruin the lives of everyone around you. Like a wrecking ball.

Look, you are pretty horrible people and I don't expect you to listen, but if you're not marriage material, let the people know beforehand. Please don't get married and more importantly have children. Just the avoid the family life. Let someone a better person, that will not make your partner miserable, find love. You are just blocking up traffic. Like the person on the Metro rests their feet on the seat next to them. Move and let someone else have it.

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OK, so I'm one of those people. But I was faithful for 20 years and had kids. But ... then I got all broken inside, made bad decisions, had some faulty coping mechanisms. Serial cheater? I only cheated with one person, but it was lots and lots of times.

I sure as hell didn't know when I got married that I wasn't going to stay faithful. I had no idea. I surprised myself. I'd never cheated on anybody up to that point. In hindsight I realized I'd had some emotional affairs and I pushed the boundaries of what was OK before marriage, and maybe even a bit after, but at the time I did NOT have any clue, no idea, and it was only after cheating "for real" and reading reading reading up on myself did I realize that I'd had issues my whole life, that I just didn't know it.

If I'd known then what I know now ... things WOULD be different. I probably would not have married the person I married. And sure, I might be a horrible person. Pretty much, I agree, I'm a selfish, horrible, cheater and I can't seem to find empathy for my spouse. But I didn't know in my 20s.[/quote]

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