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[quote=Anonymous]A friend of mine from grad school. We were never single at the same time, always had overlapping long distance relationships that prevented us from actually giving it a try.

She always joked about how we should get married and have kids, when we were going to spend the night with each other, etc. She's told me many times that I'm the only person she could be brutally honest with and tell me everything. I know that there's a lot she holds back from her current boyfriend, that she couldn't share with him due to his jealousy (she LOVES Latin men). I even met her mom when she still lived in DC; it was pretty obvious that her mother had heard EVERYTHING about me. Her mom was even quizzing me about my dating life and asked if I would date her daughter, lol.

We made out once, it was electric. However, it happened right when she was on a break from her then-boyfriend and I had just begun casually dating my current fiancee. It didn't go beyond making out, but it was insane chemistry. She then moved to Europe to do her PhD a few months later, got a new boyfriend while in Europe, etc. I am still with my fiancee and we recently bought a home together.

We still chat a few times per year on Skype or WhatsApp. If I'm in her city for work, we will grab a drink or dinner. I've met her boyfriend (they live together), he's a nice guy though I can tell its a bit stilted between them. We try to keep a bit arms' length, since the temptation is just bubbling under the surface and we want to be respectful of our partners.

My current fiancee has some serious health issues, to the point where she's warned me that I will probably be an early widower. If that happens (god forbid), I could definitely see myself having a second marriage with my friend.

Life is complicated and unpredictable. I don't believe that there is any one person for me. I know it's possible to be in love with and spend a happy lifetime with many potential partners. A lot of life's happy moments and meaningful relationships just comes down to good timing and chance. It's nice knowing that there are multiple people out there with whom I could share that mindset.[/quote]

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