definitely not. despite all our problems, i'm 100% dedicated to my husband.

Anonymous wrote:Who knew the Germans had such mystique!?!?

Haha damn, seriously! I believe there are 3(4?) German men mentioned on this thread...I feel like I'm missing out

A friend of mine from grad school. We were never single at the same time, always had overlapping long distance relationships that prevented us from actually giving it a try.

She always joked about how we should get married and have kids, when we were going to spend the night with each other, etc. She's told me many times that I'm the only person she could be brutally honest with and tell me everything. I know that there's a lot she holds back from her current boyfriend, that she couldn't share with him due to his jealousy (she LOVES Latin men). I even met her mom when she still lived in DC; it was pretty obvious that her mother had heard EVERYTHING about me. Her mom was even quizzing me about my dating life and asked if I would date her daughter, lol.

We made out once, it was electric. However, it happened right when she was on a break from her then-boyfriend and I had just begun casually dating my current fiancee. It didn't go beyond making out, but it was insane chemistry. She then moved to Europe to do her PhD a few months later, got a new boyfriend while in Europe, etc. I am still with my fiancee and we recently bought a home together.

We still chat a few times per year on Skype or WhatsApp. If I'm in her city for work, we will grab a drink or dinner. I've met her boyfriend (they live together), he's a nice guy though I can tell its a bit stilted between them. We try to keep a bit arms' length, since the temptation is just bubbling under the surface and we want to be respectful of our partners.

My current fiancee has some serious health issues, to the point where she's warned me that I will probably be an early widower. If that happens (god forbid), I could definitely see myself having a second marriage with my friend.

Life is complicated and unpredictable. I don't believe that there is any one person for me. I know it's possible to be in love with and spend a happy lifetime with many potential partners. A lot of life's happy moments and meaningful relationships just comes down to good timing and chance. It's nice knowing that there are multiple people out there with whom I could share that mindset.

Anonymous wrote:There is seriously something wrong with you if you do this. Try to figure it out.

+1

It's about you, and it's no way to live.

Yes. One was my high school boyfriend who basically put me on a pedestal and treated me so well but I didn’t think much of that at the time. The other was a guy with whom I had the best sex of my life and the level of attraction and passion was unbelievable but eventually I wanted more and he didn’t although when I met my boyfriend (now DH) he was finally ready for something more serious. It doesn’t help that DH and I are now in a sexless marriage and I miss that passion and sexual connection.

There is seriously something wrong with you if you do this. Try to figure it out.

We can't be in contact. We tried to be friends but the chemistry was still palpable and it would have been a recipe for disaster.

Who knew the Germans had such mystique!?!?

Anonymous wrote:I was in love with a German man almost 20 years ago. Still think of him almost every day.

OP here. The man who inspired the post is also German. He contacted me recently. We are both happily married. I never completely got over him or the sense that our relationship never came to full fruition.

Anonymous wrote:I was in love with a German man almost 20 years ago. Still think of him almost every day.

Ugh, I fell in love with a German man over ten years ago, when we were kids. I would be lying if I said I didn't feel some kind of way when he sent me pictures of his newborn last month.

Well, I was recently separated and met up with my high school boyfriend for lunch. It was the sweetest most nostalgic thing ever. If you are married I would recommend not doing it. I didn't hold a torch for him but was so wondering how he was doing.

Because she is married, for gods sake!

My college boyfriend. He's married with three kids. I have no desire to be a homewrecker. But if he ever got divorced.....

I was in love with a German man almost 20 years ago. Still think of him almost every day.

Contact him now! Why wait?

Tell me about that person/situation. I still carry a torch for the only person apart from my DH who I ever considered making a life with. We were too young to make it work. If we were both ever single again I would contact him. I still think of him often.