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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have an ADHD 15 year old. With medication, a 504 and an executive functioning coach, he is doing much better, and each year gets more mature. Right now, he is succeeding as a TJ sophomore. I expect him to have great college options, but to need to chose thoughtfully.  Specifically, he will need to look at a small college that focuses on undergrads (Mudd or Rose Hullman for Engineering,  Davidson, Swarthmore, Claremont colleges, WM as an I State option, etc. if he does liberal arts).

Boys develop EF skills later than girls, so we are taking it year by year.  This is the first year he is able to manage a TJ workload without an EF coach. Which means he should be able to manage a college workload— if he stays on task and doesn’t disappear down a video game rabbit hole. He will be on medication for the foreseeable future, but once he is 18, it will be his choice.

We are talking to him about a gap year to work, intern and gain extra maturity and EF skills, so he is in the best possible position to start college. He seems open to the idea.

I have seen things get better each year.  But DH is also ADHD, so I don’t think it will ever be “cured”.  I think it can be managed so that he can go to a good college, have a great career and a fulfilling life— if he makes smart choices.

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For some reason, this seems a little unfair that he goes to TJ and gets so much help. My average non-ADHD son could do well there too with a lot of help. [/quote]

So much help? We meet with his teachers once a year for a 504 meeeting.  He takes time and a half for math tests and standardized tests. If he gets behind in turning in homework, his teacher contacts me.  He takes medication to correct a chemical imbalance in his brain.  He no longer needs an EF coach.  We monitor homework in a low distrion area, ithout his iPhone.

He is working his a** off.  He was able to get into TJ— and took the test without accommodations by the way.  Why should he not benefit from the education?  He does all the work. Turns it in on time or gets marked down. Is graded the on same scale as everyone else.  But has to work harder than many of the kids to get the same grade.

Would you say a kid in wheelchair, or a kid with a chronic medical condition that meant missing a couple of days of school a month and needs teachers to work with them on makeups (his friend, who has a medical IEP) should not be at TJ.

He got in fairly. He does the same work up to the same standard as every her kid.  No— your average kid could not do that. Even with extra time on math.

He’s doing something very hard. Made harder by ADHD. I think it’s commendable. It shows maturity and perseverance.  I had concerns about. TJ.  Proved me wrong. I could not be more proud of this kid. [/quote]

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