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[quote=Anonymous]If it's only you that's getting angry/annoyed/frustrated with her then you need to look into ways of regulating your own emotions.  There are many books out there regarding it - and it may be good for you to read up on it and practice it now becuase, believe you me, the teen years have been worse IME. Even with YEARS of practice keeping my shit together in the face of infuriating behavior, I am sometimes pushed beyond my limit.

If your DD's behavior is impacting all relationships at home, you should seriously consider medication.  That's what pushed us to begin medication with DS.  His behavior was ruining his relationship with his siblings, it was impacting his relationship with me and DH and just, overall, disruptive.  It's no way to live.

You should also identify those things that exacerbate behaviors.  As PP noted, if homework is an issue between you, have someone else do it with him.  If screentime transitions are difficult, don't allow it.  My oldest is in HS and we still don't allow screentime during the week except for HW and then it's done in a common room.

Set up an 'incentive' program.  For us, it was screentime/video games on the weekend.  Kids got at least 20 minutes of screen time on the weekend.  Good behavior could earn additional minutes. 
 Poor behavior resulted in loss of minutes but they always had at least 20 minutes (you don't want them in a position where they feel like they've got nothing left to lose).  It was very effective for us. 
 We still do it for video game time but it's less behavior related as chore/study time related.  Good luck.[/quote]

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