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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 7 yr old son has ADHD.  He is medicated.  We've been involved in a social skills group but it's not generalizing to school.  Where do I go now?

If something happens, it's never his fault; someone else made him behave that way.  If a privilege is revoked, his response does not fit the punishment--ie a major tantrum over losing his ipad until his homework is complete.  His response is over exaggeration---that he has now lost it "forever" or "for the rest of my life".  His negativity about himself is overwhelming.  If he is not picked first for a perceived fun activity, than he feels that he will always be picked last forever.  However, he feels that for a non preferred activity, he is always picked first.

How do I help him turn his negativity around?  Or who do I turn to for help to help him?[/quote]

My kid responds "really" well to my modeling something.  So when I mess up, I own up to the mistake, say I'm sorry, and then discuss how I intend to fix it.  I talk through the whole thing, so he understands what I'm doing.

Does it make him perfect?  No, but he is now more likely to accept responsibility.

As far as the rigid thinking, which my son also has, his therapist has told me to ask him a few questions to help him think through the situation and ideally see that there are other views/sides/issues going on.  That it's more complex that what he initially perceived, and that it's OK.

A lot of this is talk, talk, talk.  Model, model, model.   Which is why therapy is helpful.   http:www.additudemagazine.com has a lot of helpful articles.   Search rigid thinking, negativity, etc.  [/quote]

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