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[quote=Anonymous]Not looking to micromanage here, just looking for some input.  I really like the children to handle their own issues - but there is one MS girl who tends to insert herself into plans, while challenging others not to let her.  I don't know how else to explain it, but it is really manipulative behavior.  Other parents pointed it out to me, I didn't want to see it for a long time, but I finally have to admit, it is the same pattern over and over again.   We do not want anyone left out, but whenever this person is included, there is inevitably drama - a conscientious challenge, to the group as a whole: "I'm doing this (with you), who says I can't?" without using those words.  If someone speaks up, because they would rather be with a smaller group, then that person is made the fall guy.  From my standpoint, it would be easier to include the person sometimes (which is difficult, because trouble always ensues, one way or another) - and for other times, when it is a smaller group, for that person to maybe consider going with anyone else - there is always someone available. Disclaimer:  this is what I did sometimes, at that age, so I am thinking it works, but maybe not.

I don't want anyone to feel excluded, so like I said, I tend to stay out of it - but there is always something. Is there something I am missing here?  I don't want anyone to feel badly. [/quote]

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