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[quote=Anonymous]I still do this with my mother and I'm 30. She can never let anything go. If she doesn't agree with something I'm doing, she will constantly bring it up at random times. She can't just gather all her thoughts and then share them and be done with it--she stews, and then drops little mini-turds on me over a period of days, weeks, or months. It's exhausting and like death by a thousand cuts. I learned as a teenager that the less I told her the truth about anything, the less ammunition she had. Whether that took the form of outright lies or just not sharing anything depends on the scenario.

Look in the mirror, OP. She is clearly telling you that she feels like a loser, that she is not comfortable sharing her feelings, and that she feels you do not accept her for what/who she is. You must be doing something to cause her to react this way. Are you constantly criticizing? Telling her what she should be doing? Lecturing or giving advice when it wasn't asked for? Once she gets out of the house, your relationship is only going to grow more distant. And she probably can't wait for that day, because it means she won't have to hide anymore.[/quote]

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