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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All that time he didn't know how to show me he loved me, my love for him was dying and it's not coming back.  I don't hate him.  I like him.  I just don't have any romantic or sexual feelings for him and I don't think any amount of counseling or date nights, or vacations will help.  It would be an easy decision for me to leave if we didn't have kids -- 11, 9, and 7.  How do I do that to them?   [/quote]

I am in much the same situation except I am the DH and my DW doesn't have any romantic or sexual feelings for me (and as that has been abundantly obvious for a long time, right now I don't have any romantic or sexual feelings for her either); counseling, date nights, vacations have not helped; and, we have kids and I don't want to hurt them with a divorce. I am also waffling. Daily life fluctuates between OK, not happy, and occasionally miserable. My therapist keeps prodding me to make a decision. None of the options look good (divorce, cheat, spend life in sexless/affectionless co-parenting).[/quote]

Another DH here in the exact situation.  I feel like divorce is trading one set of problems for another.

One one hand, I know marriages are cyclical, and its normal to have good times and bad.  On the other, the cycles of blah are now the norm.  And it takes two people to want to improve the marriage and my DW shows no interest in doing so.

No easy answers here.  It sucks to have to choose between being happy and your kids being happy.  For now, I choose the kids.  I take some comfort in the fact I am a good catch, so if we divorce, I will have no trouble finding love again.[/quote]

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