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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please focus on your child first. Make sure you can take care of you and your child first and foremost.

Friend of mine was widowed around same age as you with 3 yr old. Decided to start dating, met a guy on match.com. Sounded great, good job, came to visit in very expensive fancy cars, looked like he was off the cover of Abercrombie and Finch. Worked for one of the big time companies out there and owned his own home, he too was widowed. Sounds like a match made in heaven right? Wrong! My friend wasn't in a position to take care of herself and her child and this guy was the path of least resistance. She could have gone back to school and gotten a great career and her and her child would have been great. Instead she married him after just one year of dating.

Turns out lots of stuff she didn't find out about till they were married. Remember the fancy cars? Turns out they were leased for astronomical amount of money and he could have never afforded them flat out. The job, was part of this big company acquiring his company and he couldn't have made it through the interview process and has very little if any room for growth at work. Money runs through his hands like water. He allowed her to believe she would be stay at home mom and he would go out in his fancy cars to his fancy job and provide for them. He failed to mention the level of debt he was in and the credit cards that are routinely maxed out. My friend isn't blameless here, she didn't do her homework and didn't ask many questions and just trusted everything he said. He child can't stand her child and there is an 8 yr age difference, nightmare scenario. I believe he saw her as easy prey because of her circumstance and she saw him as an easy option instead of getting out there and working hard to provide for herself and her child.

Her days now are spent trying to clean and organize this foreclosed house he brought and never did anything to. When she heard he owned his home and found out what he paid for it, it sounded like a huge amount of money to her compared to what she was use to. She saw the house before marrying him and he told her of the big plans to redo kitchen, baths and bunch of other stuff, except there is no money to do any of this.

They have been married a little over a year and I can't be around them. He talks to her like she has an IQ of 50, gives her task to do all day long and lord if she doesn't get them done. He wanted a maid he could sleep with and he got it and she is in a hell of a predicament. Just imagine if she had just focused on herself and her child.[/quote]

Your friend is just as much  a predator as he is. She wanted  a windower and an ATM machine.

I feel sorry for the kids in the situation.[/quote]

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