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[quote=Anonymous]I am sorry that you are upset.

If you are considering terminating and want my honest advice, here it is, straight and simple:

- Set a date by which to make a decision. 
- Make an objective list about the reasons why this pregnancy is/could be positive and why it is/could be negative. Positive examples are things like you want another baby/you and DH have room and $ for this child/you don't feel complete as a family/your car is already big enough, etc.... Negative examples are things like you can't afford another child as your life is now/you struggle to give time to your existing kids/special needs or health problems with a new child would send you over the edge/you are healthy and are worried about another c-section or gaining weight/you were planning to go back to work in 6 months, etc... 
- Have your DH add to/give input about this list. I hope he is a true ally and open to the options you say you're considering. You can even make a similar list about the +s and -s of carrying this pregnancy or terminating; this list includes things like religion, potential regret, and many repeats of the above.
- With and without DH, make a judgement about what direction the list(s) tip the scales in. You don't have to do that thing, but acknowledge it. 
- Take this list and your (your, DH's, your collective) judgements to your therapist.  Talk about it and make a decision. Act on the decision and move ahead with facts and reason and process on your side, which should help should you feel regret (which you will, either way, I am guessing, and that is OK). You're going to be upset either way, relieved or happy either way, and life will go on. So do what's best for you and your family. [/quote]

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