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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] Why is your gut saying no, if the dress is appropriate, you can afford it, and she loves it?[/quote]

If she gets a $350-400 dress for her bat mitzvah, what will she expect for prom, etc?  I try to think about the future, not just the moment, in these kinds of decisions.[/quote]

You're making this way too complicated. I went to a lot of school dances. The costs of the dresses didn't escalate each time. My mom and I had fun shopping together. Sometimes we found a steal, sometimes we found something too fantastic to pass up despite the cost, sometimes the event itself mattered "less" and my girlfriends and I swapped. I'm not Jewish but I went to school with a lot of kids who were. One of my bar mitzvah dresses was $150, which was a lot to our family at the time. It didn't set me up to feel entitled or want to shop at that store or spend that much the next time.[/quote]

I DK why you think I am making this more complicated.  Feel like I know a lot of adults who got it all as kids, especially as tweens and teens, and had a hard time negotiating the transition to adulthood.  trying to be mindful that we are helping her grow roots and wings here....[/quote]

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