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[quote=Anonymous]My 10 y/o DS is a happy, calm, and sweet-natured child 90% of the time. He does well in school, is popular and well liked by his peers and teachers. He never has any behavioral issues at school, camp, sports, etc. However, on occasion at home, when he feels like something didn't go his way or he is being treated unfairly (in his mind) by us, he gets very angry and has a huge tantrum. This usually consists of yelling, screaming, stomping, throwing things, threatening to break things, slamming doors, sometimes disrespect (he's called me stupid) and once or twice an opportunistic kick at the dog. It seems that once he gets really mad, he cannot calm himself down. He just goes on and on. We try to separate his so he can get himself under control but he keeps coming back or doing things to draw our attention back to him. We try very hard to be calm with him and help him regain control, although I will admit that I do yell back sometimes when I've had enough of it. It seems that no matter how I try to approach him to help him calm down and move on so we can resolve the issue, he just wants to "stay mad" and keep it going. He just does not seem to know how to release that anger and get past it. There is not a lot of conflict in the house, but I am sure that DH and I could do better. We do give him consequences for the things he does in the fit of anger, but I think he just doesn't have the skills he needs to manage these strong emotions. I know he feels badly about the tantrum after it's all over and I worry that it is effecting his self-esteem. I don't know how to handle this and I would like some non-judgmental advice if anyone has something helpful to share. I am considering counseling for all of us. [/quote]

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