Trash talking mom at tournament
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Anonymous
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Overheard her loudly saying negative things about kids - including one on her own child's team - on the sidelines to her friend within earshot of the other parents and possibly the players in the wings. The person she was speaking with seemed to cringe, and I was worried the parent of the child she was criticizing was actually right behind her. I was embarrassed for everyone, but didn't want to make a scene but now I'm regretting not telling her to shut her mouth.
Why do people do this? |
Anonymous
| I don’t know! I have an acquaintance who often sits next to me and does things like this. I try to avoid her and if it’s really bad respond, but mostly I cringe and change the subject. |
Anonymous
| Please don’t sit with these types. Everyone will assume it’s you. |
Anonymous
Record them on FB Live. They will never do that again. |
Anonymous
| This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets. |
Anonymous
| You can’t control what comes out of someone else’s mouth. It’s part of life. |
Anonymous
Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson. |
Anonymous
I don’t know in the latter case (I received an assurance that it would be dealt with), but in the first case there was a stern warning from the league to the parents on the team, possibly with the coach as intermediary. |
Anonymous
Well what would you prefer? She call you out during the match or take it up with you afterward. And you can still toss someone after the match. |
Anonymous
A coach, player or parent can definitely be punished for actions toward a referee before, during or after a game. That’s why there’s a game report to be completed by the referee. It wouldn’t make a difference in the completed game but can for future games, as the reports are reviewed by the league R&D and communicated directly to the clubs. If the actions are serious enough, the individual will be brought in front of the state committee and face severe penalties. |
Anonymous
| You guys complain and talk about anything. |
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You can toss a player or a coach after the game as well. Won’t change the game that just ended, but hopefully it’ll mean a suspension in future games. Edit. Whoops, saw someone already responded similarly. Oh well. |
Anonymous
Just ignore. It is her own insecurities at play. Why do you care so much? Was she talking about your player? |
Anonymous
Well at least she was honest. Wouldn't make it in politics though. |
Anonymous
This. |