Trash talking mom at tournament

[Anonymous]

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

SoccerRef wrote:

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.

Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.

Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson.

I should've carded one player. The parents would've killed me, so you'd be reading this from my ghost, but I agree.

The coach didn't say one word until after the game, when she berated me for all the fouls I'd called. Clever, I suppose. Wait until after the game so you don't get tossed.

You can toss a player or a coach after the game as well. Won’t change the game that just ended, but hopefully it’ll mean a suspension in future games.

Edit. Whoops, saw someone already responded similarly. Oh well.

Yeah, that might have been good as well. She actually wasn't being that abusive. It was just what she was saying that I couldn't believe. She complained about the penalties called against her team. I told her they were legit fouls and that the other team was getting hurt. She said that her team plays tough, and if the other team can't take it, that's their problem.

Did I mention this was U-10?

Yes but you didn’t tell us which club... inquiring minds want to know!

[Anonymous]

Ohio... says it all.

[Anonymous]

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

RantingSoccerDad wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.

Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.

Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson.

I should've carded one player. The parents would've killed me, so you'd be reading this from my ghost, but I agree.

The coach didn't say one word until after the game, when she berated me for all the fouls I'd called. Clever, I suppose. Wait until after the game so you don't get tossed.

You're uncomfortable giving a yellow card because parents might be upset? How would you feel if one of the players got hurt because you didn't card earlier in the game to establish appropriate conduct? If you want to take the easy way out then don't ref.

[Anonymous]

So which clubs’ parents were the worst this weekend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So which clubs’ parents were the worst this weekend?

Pipeline was pretty dang annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So which clubs’ parents were the worst this weekend?

Pipeline was pretty dang annoying.

Paragon usually doesn't disappoint

[Anonymous]

Toxic thread. Yes there are annoying people on the sidelines, like real life (annoying neighbors, co-workers, etc.). Until you talk to them about it in person it won’t change and expecting big brother to make everyone conform to your individual behavior standards is unrealistic. This is a mini-cancel culture thread. Scary actually just how Stepford like people can be.

[Anonymous]

We have a lead parent responsible for shutting up
Our parents.

We as for 1 parent on their team to address their parents.

If it’s egregious I tell them to shut the f up. That has never failed me.

[Anonymous]

I actually had a coach come over and tell parents to chill yesterday. They actually weren’t that bad, and it was mostly this one incident rather than anything persistent, but the yelling was directed as much at a U-11 opponent as it was at me, so I thought it was pretty cool.

I had already told the girl who was one step away from persistent infringement to listen to me, not the parents.

[Anonymous]

DS coach had to tell our parents to cut it out a couple times but his weekend.

[Anonymous]

It's annoying for sure, but unless you speak up about it in real life, it won't change. I don't suggest being super aggressive, but something along the lines of, "Hey, these are kids playing, let's tone it down and stop that," should work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually had a coach come over and tell parents to chill yesterday. They actually weren’t that bad, and it was mostly this one incident rather than anything persistent, but the yelling was directed as much at a U-11 opponent as it was at me, so I thought it was pretty cool.

I had already told the girl who was one step away from persistent infringement to listen to me, not the parents.

We were at this game. Thought it was a classy move by the coach to come out and have that conversation with his parents, and appreciated the job you did keeping the game under control and talking discretely but directly to the player, thank you for that. Parents yelling at a 10yo girl is not ok.

[Anonymous]

Men: let’s celebrate we aren’t her husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men: let’s celebrate we aren’t her husband

Humans: Let's celebrate decent people and don't assume a spouse's gender

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men: let’s celebrate we aren’t her husband

Humans: Let's celebrate decent people and don't assume a spouse's gender

How about you don’t do “we” or “us”? Thank you for your consideration.