Building resilience in whiny kids
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Anonymous
+1. Same with my father but it made me into a sneak and a liar. It didn’t change any behavior - I just lied or didn’t let him see it. |
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We do not allow whining. "Do you want to try saying that again without whining? Oops, you're still whining - go to your room and come back when you've calmed down and can talk without whining."
We also say "What do you think you can do to solve this?" a lot. |
Anonymous
| I think you’re right to empathize with crying. About whining you need to calmly ask them to repeat in non whiny voice every single time. |
Anonymous
Why not? Isn’t that the “resilience” you speak of in your title? It doesn’t magically appear. |
Anonymous
I think that PP was some twisted troll. |
Anonymous
Hi, my parents weren't very smart either. Get some parenting help, there are plenty of resources available that weren't available back then. |
jsmith123
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I always offer comfort when my children are upset. I think that's a very different thing than giving into whining, which I try not to do.
It's possible you have a sensitive child who may suffer from some anxiety. Ignoring or punishing children with anxiety who are upset generally makes it worse, not better. |
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| Agree with a lot of the previous advice. Make sure that you yourself are correctly differentiating between the “issues,” too. Emotions aren’t monolithic even if some of the outward signs are the same. There’s a difference between breaking down in tears with “Evelyn just said she didn’t like the outfit I put on my doll and wouldn’t let me play dress up with her and Sally - again!” and crying at, “no, I said I wanted blueberry muffins, not chocolate chip!” |
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