How often do you see your AP? How did you meet your AP? How do you communicate with your AP?

How often do you see your AP? How did you meet your AP? How do you communicate with your AP?

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04/10/2021 19:18

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Anonymous

^ cheating does such damage to all involved.

These cheaters and Ashley Madison losers think it’s all fun and light and that they won’t get caught. So, what’s the harm, right?

You are playing games with people’s lives. These are real mothers and fathers and families you are harming. It’s not a game. Discovery of cheating often leads to suicide, depression, anxiety and broken homes. Sometimes violence.

It also is such low character. It says a lot about a person that lies, deceives, gaslights and exposes their spouse to STIs without their knowledge. These are not good people and they certainly don’t care about the fallout or the people their hurting, including their own spouses and children.

You can’t put that hurt put in the world and it nor come back you in some way.

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04/10/2021 19:32

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Anonymous

You’re certainly hurting enough for all of us.

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04/10/2021 20:06

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't care about this too much from a moral standpoint, but from a hilarity standpoint I do hope you all get caught.

Caught, and screwed on child custody and $$ in the divorces.

If they're that unhappy or have "needs my spouse can't fulfill" they need to be single again. Divorce already.

But they all love the thrill of the illicitness, and that won't be there with just boring old single person sex. Unless the person they're sleeping with is married.

You don't speak for anyone and can't tell anyone what they should do.

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04/10/2021 20:23

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Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for married people that cheat. The justification is always there is no sex and sex was part of the marriage contract. But life is part of the marriage contract—both spouses will work, one will be a SAHP, there will always be good and a roof, the kids will be healthy, there will only be one child, in laws/parents will not need help, a spouse doesn’t get a terminal illness or have a disability that requires family changes.

People that feel sex is a right once married just don’t seem to understand the forever, no matter what aspect of marriage. I understand abuse and divorce—that’s not part of the contract. But cheating is just BS. Grow up and divorce. For the parents that chest, would it be okay with you to see your child hurt because their spouse was cheating? Would you tell them it’s better than divorcing? Think about what behaviors you are telling your kids are okay. And yes, your kids know that something is up and one day they will put it all together.

The people you’re talking about don’t care because they are completely self-centered. They will justify however they need to so they can just do what they want.

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04/10/2021 21:02

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't care about this too much from a moral standpoint, but from a hilarity standpoint I do hope you all get caught.

Caught, and screwed on child custody and $$ in the divorces.

If they're that unhappy or have "needs my spouse can't fulfill" they need to be single again. Divorce already.

But they all love the thrill of the illicitness, and that won't be there with just boring old single person sex. Unless the person they're sleeping with is married.

I assume you are not divorced. This does not affect custody or a split of maritial assets. So stop. It could affect a cheater from not getting alimony. Most people do not get alimony anyway and if so, it is usually temporary.

Familiarize yourself with the divorce laws of Virginia.

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04/10/2021 21:25

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Pre covid we saw each other M-F at work and had sex 3-4 times per week. That's where we met. Friendly banter turned into a friendship for a year which turned into a physical affair for several years. During covid I have WFH but he still works at the office. We found ways to see each other once or twice a week. Then I got divorced, so now we can spend time together at my house. We've taken a couple trips together. Also it has helped that he has a big SUV with black tinted windows. That's made car sex fun and easy. We communicate through messaging apps that have another layer of security to get into. While married I had the apps on my work phone which was never monitored. Since my divorce I've installed them on my personal phone. He's had them on his personal phone all along. Neither of us expected this to turn into anything serious but it just works.

You are worse than horrible. I’m sure it doesn’t work for his wife and family - but of course, you only care about yourself, do that doesn’t register with you. Yiyr parents failed with you.

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04/10/2021 21:51

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't care about this too much from a moral standpoint, but from a hilarity standpoint I do hope you all get caught.

Caught, and screwed on child custody and $$ in the divorces.

If they're that unhappy or have "needs my spouse can't fulfill" they need to be single again. Divorce already.

But they all love the thrill of the illicitness, and that won't be there with just boring old single person sex. Unless the person they're sleeping with is married.

I assume you are not divorced. This does not affect custody or a split of maritial assets. So stop. It could affect a cheater from not getting alimony. Most people do not get alimony anyway and if so, it is usually temporary.

Familiarize yourself with the divorce laws of Virginia.

I am divorced in Va. I am very familiar.

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04/10/2021 23:26

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It’s wrong on so many levels but oh so right when it works out! I had an AP who I met just by chance and we hit it off. We would meet once every other week when schedules aligned. It was more of an emotional affair with very frequent messaging. However, when we were able to be intimate, it was absolutely incredible! Imagine two people in sexless marriages finally connecting with each other. It’s incredible. The attention from both sides led to some amazing times! Sadly, things fizzled out because of Covid.

I would recommend only entertaining the prospect of an AP if both are in similar positions with marriage and family life. Otherwise, I would assume being on unequal grounds could lead to differential expectations and cause major issues. Also, the risk is real that everything in your life could totally blow up and be lost.

All this talk about AP on this board makes me think that a new AP could be anywhere!

profile p.m.

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04/11/2021 00:28

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Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for married people that cheat. The justification is always there is no sex and sex was part of the marriage contract. But life is part of the marriage contract—both spouses will work, one will be a SAHP, there will always be good and a roof, the kids will be healthy, there will only be one child, in laws/parents will not need help, a spouse doesn’t get a terminal illness or have a disability that requires family changes.

People that feel sex is a right once married just don’t seem to understand the forever, no matter what aspect of marriage. I understand abuse and divorce—that’s not part of the contract. But cheating is just BS. Grow up and divorce. For the parents that chest, would it be okay with you to see your child hurt because their spouse was cheating? Would you tell them it’s better than divorcing? Think about what behaviors you are telling your kids are okay. And yes, your kids know that something is up and one day they will put it all together.

Sexless IS abuse. Besides, a sexless person obviously believes sex is unimportant. So it’s not big deal when their partner cheats.

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04/11/2021 08:00

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Anonymous

Sorry but you have no idea if your Ap had sexless marriage. Cheaters lie. That’s what they do. We had a very active and adventurous sex life and mine went for a variety f@ck once or twice a month. It’s not fun and games when it destroys another woman and blows up families which is what happens. It’s funny how wives get pregnant while not having sex. It’s all BS to get in your pants, dummy.

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04/11/2021 08:04

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Anonymous

You can get sued for risking the family with covid and your spouse with std

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04/11/2021 08:05

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If a sexual partner had knowledge of his/her STD and infected you, he or she may be liable for damages in a civil lawsuit. ... If you have been infected with a sexually transmitted disease (STD), you may be able to file a civil lawsuit against the sexual partner who infected you.

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04/11/2021 09:00

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Keep dreaming and steaming, 8:04 and 8:05.

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04/11/2021 09:06

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Anonymous

Anonymous wrote:You can get sued for risking the family with covid and your spouse with std

There is precedent for the Covid thing—especially at start of Covid when everyone was at home and self-isolating and virtually everything was shutdown. Cheater sneaking out and putting family at risk effected custody due to endangerment.

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04/11/2021 10:10

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s an AP?

affair partner or advanced placement

Or Au pair.

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