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Is anyone close to their SIL?
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Anonymous
| I have four and yes we are kind of close, no problem with them |
Anonymous
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I have one and she is the most selfish creature in the world.
Also a walking cliche and a fake. We get along great though, she doesn't know I cannot stand her. Or maybe she hides it as well as I do. |
Anonymous
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"yes - SIL is our nanny."
SIL is our personal housekeeper, valet, chef, driver and butler. No health insurance for her until she puts in 25 years, though. And she better not ask for Christmas off again. |
Anonymous
| adore 2 of my 3 SILs - my brother's wife and DH's step-brother's wife. neither of us can stand DH's brother's wife (she's crazy) but we never really see them so it's not a huge problem. never grew up with sisters but my brother's wife has been part of our family now for 15 years, and I tell her all the time how glad I am that she's part of my life! |
Anonymous
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Have one normal one and one extremely needy one. The needy one makes everything miserable with her self-absorption. MIL enables her, which makes her that much worse. Nothing is ever enough for the needy one (or MIL, actually). She really drains people with her neediness, negativity, and obvious deflection and denial. She's kind of helpless (even though she is perfectly able) - because of her overwhelming laziness. The nice one is independent, nice, successful, which makes her pleasant in all. I think the difference between the two is that the "bad seed" (she'd never see it) has decided to look at what others have instead of what she has. She sucks people dry. She is very black and white (would not admit it) in that different (people or change in general) is bad to her. She is rather ignorant because frankly, she has been over coddled, which never helps anyone. Which is clear in this case! The "good seed" (ironically, I think she is aware) knows how to be happy. Gosh, they are almost like science experiments, in that they have the same parents, so it is interesting the damage that can be done, I suppose. |
Anonymous
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I love my SIL like a sister. She and my brother met as college freshman so she and I have known each other about half our lives. She was shy in the beginning and I think intimidated by her boyfriend's two loudmouth sisters (me and my sis) but she got over that quick and learned to hold her own.
She helped my brother to mature and gain self-confidence. Without her I don't think he would have gotten his M.A. Plus I adore my two little nephews. She and bro were married 10 years before they had kids... another good idea of hers... she has the common sense in the marriage! |
Anonymous
| No, not close to either of them. There are 2. |
Anonymous
| Nope! |
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wtf? Do you have something against family watching your kids? |
Anonymous
| I have three SILs (husband has three sisters), and I like them all and we get along great, but I don't know if I would have ever been good friends with any of them if they weren't SILs. Now, my brother's longtime girlfriend might as well be my SIL to me; she is super-fun, easy-going, and I would miss her alot if she and my brother ever separated. |
Anonymous
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Yup. We're very different, and would never have become friends if circumstances were different (because our paths would never have crossed - not because she isn't worth being friends with).
Our common MIL gave us the great gift of hating us both - bonded us like glue. We have a pact to never speak ill of each other in front of the family, or to ever not take each other's side in public. Works well. |
Anonymous
| NO. Mine's nuts. |
Anonymous
| My sister in law is a selfish, materialistic, superficial control freak. Yeah, I don't like her. |
Anonymous
| not exactly - sil is 4 years younger than me and my husband and kind of materialistic - very much into stuff and labels and what brand everyone owns... also hates her job and is a huge whiner about it. she's just very immature... and single... i'm hoping she meets a nice guy, grows up and then maybe we can have a real friendship. |
Anonymous
| I like my SIL, mostly. There is a lot we don't have in common and some things we do. It has been rocky at times but it is important to me to be on good terms with her. |