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Anonymous
| what would you do? She is a Harvard Grad, former first lady, mother of three who just found out her husband has been seeing a prostitute or several prostitutes and spent over $80k....would you stay or leave him? |
Anonymous
| Not only would I have left him, I would have announced it at the press conference. Forget standing by him. |
Anonymous
| I'd definitely leave him!! |
Anonymous
| In a NY minute I would be outta there. |
Anonymous
Well said! I think she's beautiful too. (And brilliant.) And I would want to set a good example for my daughters who aren't that much younger than that other person.... |
Anonymous
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But, do you think you have enough information to say what you would do. Afterall, we really don't stand in her shoes and we don't know that she just found out. I read that he had unusual habits - which were not specified. What if you are the wife and knew about his interests and didn't want to accommodate so you offerred him the opportunities for alternatives, such as Kristen. Knowing that he spent $80k on this, um, hobby, it's hard to imagine that she was totally clueless.
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Anonymous
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Hmmm. As pp said, I probably don't have enough information to say for sure -- Spitzer didn't just wake up one day and decide to be colossally self-destructive; I'd bet that his "troubled psyche" has been playing itself out in other ways for a long, long time.
But, aswering in a vacuum, I'd use every scrap of leverage that I could garner to negotiate a superior property settlement and (supervised) custody arrangement, and get my daughters away from that mess. |
Anonymous
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It would really depend on the situation and the inside of the marriage, which nobody knows but the two of them. They have two daughters still at home, after all.
But I think it would be pretty hard to continue a healthy marriage after this public humiliation and exposure. |
Anonymous
| I am sorry, but there is no way I would stay with my husband if he was having sex with dirty whores. Sure, they were high paid, but none the less, they could still be disease ridden. Sad really, he could have brought home AIDS, and that would be a shame. Nothing like sentencing your spouse with a death sentence because you can't keep your fantasies to yourself. |
Anonymous
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Maybe there's more to the story than we (the public) know.
Who knows what goes on behind closed doors? Maybe she turned a blind eye? Maybe she stayed with the marriage and with him for their daughters? Maybe it was a pride/image thing (being the "perfect first lady, the harvard grad, etc.). Let us not pass judgment. |
Anonymous
| OP's question is, would you stay? |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't and couldn't stay. Having said that, though, I think she should not add fuel to the fire by making a public declaration as a PP said. I understand and respect her decision for standing by her husband during the press conference. Had it been me, however, I might have stayed home (working up my divorce settlement with my attorney). |
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My gut reaction is to think I would do the same. But then... I think it's hard to really say honestly what I would do if I were really in that situation. I feel like it would be so much more complicated what with children, history, being unemployed and all the uncertainty and hurt..... |
Anonymous
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How do we know she wasn't fully aware of what he was doing? Maybe he had her blessing.
None of us know what goes on in a marriage other than our own. |
Anonymous
I read that one of the "unusual" things he wanted was unprotected sex. Yeah, I'd be out of there in a second. There is absolutely no justification in my mind to stay. I'm not sure what it is about prostitution, but to me, it seems so much worse than having an affair with another consensual adult woman. Prostitution almost seems like there's a control issue there - that the man wants to pay for sex because he can have control over what the woman does. With three daughters, I can't imagine ANY reason why a woman would stay with a man who did what Spitzer has done. |