if you were Spitzer's wife...

[Anonymous]

I think what she has done (standing by her man) will have vast negative consequences for her 3 daughters. What on Earth does it tell THEM about being a wife and a self respecting educated woman when your husband can spend thousands of dollars on hookers, get Lord knows what diseases, disrespect your entire family, humilate you and hten you STAND BESIDE him? I don't particularly care what, if any, agreement they may have had behind closed dorrs. HIS actions toward his daughters and their family should be enough for her to leave him.

I would leave in a second and never look back. Those poor girls.

[Anonymous]

Oh what a treat, your hubbie brings home all kinds of nice diseases for you. Nothing like a little HPV with cervical cancer.
Get rid of that dangerous reckless man Mrs. Spitzer.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Remember Chelsea Clinton? She was around the same age, no?

Anyway, I think if I was (god forbid) in Silda's shoes, my first instinct would be to protect the girls by demanding publicly - BEFORE that jerk's statement - that the press must STAY AWAY from the family and focus on Spitzer's legal and political transgressions. Anyone who didn't Sort of like Princess Diana did (or tried to do) for her kids.

Assuming a statement was a separate day and location, I would feel some sense of control over the situation no matter how angry and hurt I was on the inside. Plus I think the image of standing strong (and not beside or behind a s---head) gives a positive image of keeping composure and dignity. Sure, it's no guarantee the press will play nice, but it helps cut down on the speculation of "did she know", "oh poor thing", etc.

She could always stand by his side later - a la Hillary Clinton. (Still don't understand that one...) There will likely be lots of photo ops at his many court appearances.

The whole thing is so hard to see.

[Anonymous]

I would leave immediately. I would not have been at the press conferences either. BTW, my answer is based on the following assumptions:

1. She did not know about his indiscretions - There are lots or relationships were there is an understanding between the parties. Her apparent humilation (did you see her face) may be due more to the fact that Spitzers "activites" were made public, not to the fact that they happened.
2. The marriage was still "alive". She role may simply have been to be first lady and mother to her children.

[Anonymous]

How can u not know or at least suspect something. your husband spends several years having an affair.
is he James Bond?

Wud i leave? I think she left long time ago but pretended to be there.
I wud not leave just yet. i wud see him thru this and then leave him when all is calm. i guess i would be
doing it for my children.

[Anonymous]

Back to original question.

I would leave. For my daughters. And how would I feel right now: OMG so publicly humiliated.

A hooker, and one who is only a few years older than his daughters. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

The best way to leave is when he thinks you're staying. Tidy up the finances, get him a vasectomy, stay in the house, gift to your kids (so he can't get it)...then split.

[Anonymous]

I just read that she was married for about 20 months to one man then divorced and immediately went after Spitzer. Did she marry Spitzer for money?

[Anonymous]

I am glad to see that a lot of women would leave in this circumstance--this has always bothered me about Hillary Clinton. I think even if this woman really loves her hubby-she decided to bring children in the world and once you do that..you needs have to take a back seat when it comes to setting a good example. I think at a minimum she should have immediately separateed to fully communicate that she does not condone this behavior--then..if she thinks the marriage is worth it..and it would have to take a lot. Maybe they could get some counseling. The thing is..this is so blatant--it makes me wonder if he is some kind of sex addict? Maybe he thought that by going to whores..it wasn't as bad an affair.. I guess in the end, it doesn't matter--I feel so much for their girls..this will affect how they view men and by mom just standing there..it will affect how the expect to be treated by a man. It's sad and it reminds me that we really haven't come so far at all.

[Anonymous]

Certainly he is a sexual deviant.

[Anonymous]

Yes he is deviant. He has three daughters that he would not want working as hookers. But he can exploit others.

[Anonymous]

gosh I never thought of it like that. Bad really bad. Oh course I wonder if Bill would want Chelsea giving head to some perverted married old guy. The only thing that will curb this behavoir is if women find put their foot down and don't excuse it. If my husband did anything like this--he would be out so fast he wouldn't know what hit him and he knows this. By the same token, I know that if I did something like this, I would be out myself.