Husband pretty much called me a wh***

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[Post New]09/13/2018 21:18
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Tell him when you go to court for alimony and child support you’ll be happy for the judge to order paternity tests so he’ll know for sure he’s paying for HIS children.


NP here. That’s the kind of come back line I could never think up on the spot.
[Post New]09/13/2018 21:40
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How the hell do so many of y'all get into these fights that go from 0 to 100mph in 5.2 seconds? Got damn you'd think after years of being together most of you would know how to deescalate shit so it doesn't fly off the handle and end up in drama-ville so easily.



Most likely because in this case husband is cheating and wants wife to end the marriage so he doesn't have to (maybe so his parents don't judge him)
[Post New]09/13/2018 21:50
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Anonymous
Would start keeping tabs on him for sure; maybe even hire someone to see if there is any evidence of cheating.
[Post New]09/13/2018 23:09
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Anonymous
Hire a PI. Get evidence.

If you confront without evidence, he will lie his ass off and make you feel crazy.

See a lawyer. Get all your ducks in a row.
[Post New]09/13/2018 23:40
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Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it happens, but I've never understood why someone having an affair would frequently bring up the name of the affair partner to their spouse. If I were ever going to have an affair, I doubt I'd ever bring up their name.

(In fact, I'd probably go overboard.
[Wife]: Mentions woman next door.
[Me]: Who? Never heard of her. Someone lives next door?)


Ehhhh...I was banging a married dude (I didn’t know he was at first) and after awhile I knew he would mention me to his wife, casually about work stuff, things like that. Sort of a hiding in plain sight thing.


Ehhh..once you found out he was married why didn't you stop? I would have alerted his wife.


He was a great lay and she’s none of my concern. Heard she was a total b*tch anyway
[Post New]09/14/2018 10:15
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Anonymous
My DW acts like in a similar manner, except for the kids part. Any time i mention a womans name she starts acting like I'm having an affair or want to, even though I have never wanted. I try to compare it to her doing things with other guys and she doesn't get the comparison. I have asked her about cheating and honestly doubt she is, but she acts like your DH
[Post New]09/14/2018 10:36
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it happens, but I've never understood why someone having an affair would frequently bring up the name of the affair partner to their spouse. If I were ever going to have an affair, I doubt I'd ever bring up their name.

(In fact, I'd probably go overboard.
[Wife]: Mentions woman next door.
[Me]: Who? Never heard of her. Someone lives next door?)


Ehhhh...I was banging a married dude (I didn’t know he was at first) and after awhile I knew he would mention me to his wife, casually about work stuff, things like that. Sort of a hiding in plain sight thing.


Ehhh..once you found out he was married why didn't you stop? I would have alerted his wife.


He was a great lay and she’s none of my concern. Heard she was a total b*tch anyway


Well, of *course* you heard that she was a total bitch. You think her DH was going to say anything nice about her to you?
[Post New]09/14/2018 10:38
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My DW acts like in a similar manner, except for the kids part. Any time i mention a womans name she starts acting like I'm having an affair or want to, even though I have never wanted. I try to compare it to her doing things with other guys and she doesn't get the comparison. I have asked her about cheating and honestly doubt she is, but she acts like your DH



Any woman's name? Then she is paranoid. The OP's DH keeps talking about ONE particular woman. That's pretty textbook. So if you are talking about the same woman over and over again, then I would tell her she is right to be suspicious.
[Post New]09/14/2018 10:40
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it happens, but I've never understood why someone having an affair would frequently bring up the name of the affair partner to their spouse. If I were ever going to have an affair, I doubt I'd ever bring up their name.

(In fact, I'd probably go overboard.
[Wife]: Mentions woman next door.
[Me]: Who? Never heard of her. Someone lives next door?)


Ehhhh...I was banging a married dude (I didn’t know he was at first) and after awhile I knew he would mention me to his wife, casually about work stuff, things like that. Sort of a hiding in plain sight thing.


Ehhh..once you found out he was married why didn't you stop? I would have alerted his wife.


He was a great lay and she’s none of my concern. Heard she was a total b*tch anyway



Omg, pp is a total loser, and no doubt knew he was married from day one.

Well, of *course* you heard that she was a total bitch. You think her DH was going to say anything nice about her to you?
[Post New]09/14/2018 10:43
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Anonymous
OP don't waste your money on a PI. You already know who she is, go by her house after work or when you notice time gaps with your husband.

[Post New]09/14/2018 10:51
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Anonymous
Is the female friend a personal friend or a business friend? My DH has a female business friend whom he talks about quite a bit and I do find it a bit annoying but not enough to let it trigger an argument. I have a couple of guy personal friends and I rarely mention them as I'm sure my DH would find it annoying. FWIW I have no interest in them beyond friendship.
[Post New]09/14/2018 10:52
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Is the female friend a personal friend or a business friend? My DH has a female business friend whom he talks about quite a bit and I do find it a bit annoying but not enough to let it trigger an argument. I have a couple of guy personal friends and I rarely mention them as I'm sure my DH would find it annoying. FWIW I have no interest in them beyond friendship.


It doesn't matter if it was a personal friend or a business friend. If her husband is talking about this person so much that it makes the OP uncomfortable, something is off.
[Post New]09/30/2018 21:00
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CodingMom
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Praying for you! It sounds complicated. Is there any underlying issue that he hasn't divulged?

[Post New]09/30/2018 22:58
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Anonymous
I would tell him you want a divorce. I personally would tell him you want to see a mediator this week to draw up a separation agreement and start it. I would be done. Mediation is cheaper than getting two attorneys. Use a mediator who is also a lawyer.
[Post New]10/01/2018 07:08
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Anonymous
OP do you have an update?
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