Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this posted before?

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ She is the executor and needs to follow the parents instructions in the will. If the parents didn’t leave the brother a life estate and instead gave everything to the siblings equally, it’s time for the brother’s free ride to end. She has a duty to sell the house and divide the proceeds.

Anonymous wrote:I posted this question in another forum but it got blown out of portion so I'll ask here.

I'm the executor of my fathers estate but I still have a 55 year old brother that lives at my parents home. This sibling is financially secure and can easily afford to buy a new home on his own, just not this one because of cost. I also have 4 siblings that live on there own, some of which that can use this inheritance money to improve the quality of there life plus kids college costs. I have no real money issues so I'm in no hurry to sell this house. BUT, I know at some point my siblings will want this brother to move out so we can sell the house and move on.

My question is, how much time is fair to give him to find a new place to live? A month, 6 months, 12 months, as long as he needs? And before you start in on me, no one is being money hungry, I'm just trying to be fair with everyone and attempting to keep peace in the family.

Anonymous wrote:I posted this question in another forum but it got blown out of portion so I'll ask here.

I'm the executor of my fathers estate but I still have a 55 year old brother that lives at my parents home. This sibling is financially secure and can easily afford to buy a new home on his own, just not this one because of cost. I also have 4 siblings that live on there own, some of which that can use this inheritance money to improve the quality of there life plus kids college costs. I have no real money issues so I'm in no hurry to sell this house. BUT, I know at some point my siblings will want this brother to move out so we can sell the house and move on.

My question is, how much time is fair to give him to find a new place to live? A month, 6 months, 12 months, as long as he needs? And before you start in on me, no one is being money hungry, I'm just trying to be fair with everyone and attempting to keep peace in the family.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I posted this question in another forum but it got blown out of portion so I'll ask here.

I'm the executor of my fathers estate but I still have a 55 year old brother that lives at my parents home. This sibling is financially secure and can easily afford to buy a new home on his own, just not this one because of cost. I also have 4 siblings that live on there own, some of which that can use this inheritance money to improve the quality of there life plus kids college costs. I have no real money issues so I'm in no hurry to sell this house. BUT, I know at some point my siblings will want this brother to move out so we can sell the house and move on.

My question is, how much time is fair to give him to find a new place to live? A month, 6 months, 12 months, as long as he needs? And before you start in on me, no one is being money hungry, I'm just trying to be fair with everyone and attempting to keep peace in the family.

Until he wants to move out. Period.

Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen the postings on the previous thread, so I hope I'm not repeating what others have said.

Your brother lived with your elderly parents? I'm sure it was extremely beneficial for your parents, at the same time that your brother was probably content to stay with mom and dad. However, if your parents had had to enter an assisted living facility, they would have been paying something in the ballpark of $7,000-$10,000 a month, per individual, to the tune of a minimum of $84,000 per year, per parent. He also gave them the gift of staying at home in their old age. Don't know what their health situation was, but it's wretched having to enter a facility due to health issues. It's wretched having to live in one of those facilities, period. He surely provided quite a bit of care to your parents, and comfort, and the ability to stay in their own home and to sleep in their own bed. That's BIG.

Therefore, be merciful with him. Be as merciful as you can be. Don't throw him out in a month, or in three months. I think one year is reasonable.

Maybe even give him the opportunity to buy the house from the estate. Maybe even cut him a break on what the market value is on the house. Remember, he saved something in the ballpark of $84,000/per year, per parent, for your parents. So maybe you can take that into consideration when you set the price you would like to sell the house for. If you calculate what his share is of the estate, and add to that some of the funds that would have gone to pay for a nursing home or in-home care, do you think it might be possible for your brother to buy the house? Does he even want to stay in the house?

That's my take on your situation, but I don't know all the details.

Anonymous wrote:OP you have issues. If I am reading your thread correctly-your brother lived with your parents, took care of them and I am assuming allowed them to remain in their home (per their wishes). I am assuming a large sum of $$$ would have otherwise gone to hiring a full time nurse/ caretaker for them or towards assisted living costs? Your brother is a saint in my eyes. Moving back home to care for aging parents is not easy (it comes with a number of unseen sacrifices). Is your family life different then your brothers (you have young children or job location requirements)? Did YOU OFFER to reside/take care of your aging parents? If not---you owe it to your brother and parents to give him ample time to transition to his next home.

Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.

Anonymous wrote:OP you have issues. If I am reading your thread correctly-your brother lived with your parents, took care of them and I am assuming allowed them to remain in their home (per their wishes). I am assuming a large sum of $$$ would have otherwise gone to hiring a full time nurse/ caretaker for them or towards assisted living costs? Your brother is a saint in my eyes. Moving back home to care for aging parents is not easy (it comes with a number of unseen sacrifices). Is your family life different then your brothers (you have young children or job location requirements)? Did YOU OFFER to reside/take care of your aging parents? If not---you owe it to your brother and parents to give him ample time to transition to his next home.

Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.

Anonymous wrote:Jesus.
Sorry Op. you got the same amount of projecting on this thread as the last.
I would follow the will. If it states it’s equal amongst siblings, there is nothing else to discuss. The house is being sold. You might time his length of stay to when the best time to List the home will be.