Sibling moving from deceased parents home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you have issues. If I am reading your thread correctly-your brother lived with your parents, took care of them and I am assuming allowed them to remain in their home (per their wishes). I am assuming a large sum of $$$ would have otherwise gone to hiring a full time nurse/ caretaker for them or towards assisted living costs? Your brother is a saint in my eyes. Moving back home to care for aging parents is not easy (it comes with a number of unseen sacrifices). Is your family life different then your brothers (you have young children or job location requirements)? Did YOU OFFER to reside/take care of your aging parents? If not---you owe it to your brother and parents to give him ample time to transition to his next home.

Something is really wrong with people these days. What happened to basic decency and kindness.

Where did OP say the brother took care of the parents?[/quote]


+1

Don't assume because one lived with the other that the parents were "taken car of" - it could very well be that the brother stole from the parents, for all we know.

[Anonymous]

OP has not anwsered why they did not move in to care the parents. This thread screams pathology. The OP definitely appears to have built up animosity even if it is not explicitly stated. Healthy, functioning families/siblings do not turn to DCUM’s for advice. OP do your own work, make ammends with your siblings, and assume the best in your family member(s). So glad you are not part of my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this posted before?

The OP posted in another forum, but did not like the answers she was given- which are similar here. On both threads, most seem to think one year is reasonable given the circumstances. I think the OP was looking for 3 months or less.

OP is a b8$%. Some people clearly have had a troubled past. She doesn't take care of her parents and is now complaining about her sibling who is taking care of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this posted before?

The OP posted in another forum, but did not like the answers she was given- which are similar here. On both threads, most seem to think one year is reasonable given the circumstances. I think the OP was looking for 3 months or less.

OP is a b8$%. Some people clearly have had a troubled past. She doesn't take care of her parents and is now complaining about her sibling who is taking care of them.

It has never been stated that the sibling cared for the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has not anwsered why they did not move in to care the parents. This thread screams pathology. The OP definitely appears to have built up animosity even if it is not explicitly stated. Healthy, functioning families/siblings do not turn to DCUM’s for advice. OP do your own work, make ammends with your siblings, and assume the best in your family member(s). So glad you are not part of my family.

Projection.
It’s not just at movie theatres.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this posted before?

The OP posted in another forum, but did not like the answers she was given- which are similar here. On both threads, most seem to think one year is reasonable given the circumstances. I think the OP was looking for 3 months or less.

OP is a b8$%. Some people clearly have had a troubled past. She doesn't take care of her parents and is now complaining about her sibling who is taking care of them.

It has never been stated that the sibling cared for the parents.

It was actually stated in the other thread that the sibling did NOT care for the parents, just lived rent free into and beyond adolescence/ adulthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen the postings on the previous thread, so I hope I'm not repeating what others have said.

Your brother lived with your elderly parents? I'm sure it was extremely beneficial for your parents, at the same time that your brother was probably content to stay with mom and dad. However, if your parents had had to enter an assisted living facility, they would have been paying something in the ballpark of $7,000-$10,000 a month, per individual, to the tune of a minimum of $84,000 per year, per parent. He also gave them the gift of staying at home in their old age. Don't know what their health situation was, but it's wretched having to enter a facility due to health issues. It's wretched having to live in one of those facilities, period. He surely provided quite a bit of care to your parents, and comfort, and the ability to stay in their own home and to sleep in their own bed. That's BIG.

Therefore, be merciful with him. Be as merciful as you can be. Don't throw him out in a month, or in three months. I think one year is reasonable.

Maybe even give him the opportunity to buy the house from the estate. Maybe even cut him a break on what the market value is on the house. Remember, he saved something in the ballpark of $84,000/per year, per parent, for your parents. So maybe you can take that into consideration when you set the price you would like to sell the house for. If you calculate what his share is of the estate, and add to that some of the funds that would have gone to pay for a nursing home or in-home care, do you think it might be possible for your brother to buy the house? Does he even want to stay in the house?

That's my take on your situation, but I don't know all the details.

+1. I agree completely. A PP commented that its about the 'legal' requirement of the situation. This involves family---your brother! Good god. OP you sound like a cold, heartless, wretch.

These posts here talk about how a parent is alive and the OPs sibling is living in the house. This is not rocket science folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't seen the postings on the previous thread, so I hope I'm not repeating what others have said.

Your brother lived with your elderly parents? I'm sure it was extremely beneficial for your parents, at the same time that your brother was probably content to stay with mom and dad. However, if your parents had had to enter an assisted living facility, they would have been paying something in the ballpark of $7,000-$10,000 a month, per individual, to the tune of a minimum of $84,000 per year, per parent. He also gave them the gift of staying at home in their old age. Don't know what their health situation was, but it's wretched having to enter a facility due to health issues. It's wretched having to live in one of those facilities, period. He surely provided quite a bit of care to your parents, and comfort, and the ability to stay in their own home and to sleep in their own bed. That's BIG.

Therefore, be merciful with him. Be as merciful as you can be. Don't throw him out in a month, or in three months. I think one year is reasonable.

Maybe even give him the opportunity to buy the house from the estate. Maybe even cut him a break on what the market value is on the house. Remember, he saved something in the ballpark of $84,000/per year, per parent, for your parents. So maybe you can take that into consideration when you set the price you would like to sell the house for. If you calculate what his share is of the estate, and add to that some of the funds that would have gone to pay for a nursing home or in-home care, do you think it might be possible for your brother to buy the house? Does he even want to stay in the house?

That's my take on your situation, but I don't know all the details.

It may be true that the brother helped the parents, but the brother also benefited, did he not? A free place to live? Is that not a huge benefit as well he may have received in return for helping with the parents?

Ugh! This is so often the attitude of adult children who've had little to do with the care of older parents but are eager to "cash out." Please. If one of your children is willing to stay at home and take care of the elders without charging for services then, please, make provisions in your will. Share and share alike often ends with the caregiver getting shafted.

[Anonymous]

^^ the sibling was not a caregiver. Please stop
Projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this posted before?

The OP posted in another forum, but did not like the answers she was given- which are similar here. On both threads, most seem to think one year is reasonable given the circumstances. I think the OP was looking for 3 months or less.

OP is a b8$%. Some people clearly have had a troubled past. She doesn't take care of her parents and is now complaining about her sibling who is taking care of them.

It has never been stated that the sibling cared for the parents.

It was actually stated in the other thread that the sibling did NOT care for the parents, just lived rent free into and beyond adolescence/ adulthood.

Other thread?