Am I overreacting? Under reacting?
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Anonymous
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DD is 7 and in First Grade. She rides the bus to school and the daycare bus after school. Last week she confided in me that an older boy was “hitting her butt” and telling her to show her belly and butt. I immediately called the school, they said it would be taken care of...
Today the daycare calls and DD is super upset. The boy apparently hit her bottom very hard and then teased her about having “an ugly bottom”. She eventually told me this boy is 9 (3rd Grade). He does this to several girls, but targets my daughter because she gets upset. The school said they’d put DD up front. Why would my daughter be punished for this child actions? I personally won’t him off the bus and out of the school. I know it’s ridiculous, but is this hot sexual harassment. Maybe even at the hands of a 3rd grader. Why is my first grader dealing with this? |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't put up with it. This boy should be put up in front where the driver can watch him carefully. Talk to them again and express your outrage. Please. |
Anonymous
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OP, it's not sexual harassment. It's not.
It is hitting and name-calling. Moving your DD away from him seems like a smart move, not a punishment. He is probably getting some sort of consequence, but you will not hear about it, because he is a student who has a right to privacy just as your DD does. |
Anonymous
| Under-reacting. It doesn't matter if you want to call it sexual harassment or not, there is a child hitting your child repeatedly and harassing her. We have friends whose child had a similar issue with another child at the beginning of this school year and the school handled it to their satisfaction - key in their telling was, the harassing child has a designated spot to sit in the classroom now and their child gets to sit wherever she wants. Onus is on the chilld who is out of line, not the child on the receiving end. |
Anonymous
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It's bullying. Whether or not this boy understand that his actions can ALSO fall under the category of sexual harassment (kids have been accused for less!), is at this point not important, since he should be disciplined for the bullying FIRST. So: 1. You file a formal bullying complaint. There is a form. 2. You contact EVERYONE by email: the principal, your child's teacher, his teacher if you know who it is, his parents if you have the school directory, the school counselor and if you don't get a response by the school in 24 hours promising this will not happen again, you escalate this to the principal's supervisor (found the school system's website). |
Anonymous
| No way I would tolerate this. Never. |
Anonymous
| Hell no. I'd be at the school tomorrow morning to follow up with the email I sent tonight to the teacher, after-care, principal, etc. saying that the boy is to be kept away from DD. DD is not to be made to move HER seat. He loses his privilege of sitting where he wants NOT her, because HE is the one who does not behave properly. Screw that. |
Anonymous
At the very least he should be the one sitting in the front seat. |
froggymom
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| Every child has the right to ride the bus and attend school without fear and anxiety do to the actions of others. Maybe see if DD sitting in the front resolves the problem. If not, a meeting with principal would be in order to enforce more serious consequences for the child causing the trouble. |
Anonymous
Me too |
Anonymous
| The school's response was entirely inappropriate, and I'd at the very least be calling and insisting on an in-person meeting to discuss it (if not marching myself up there and sitting in the office until they dealt with it). Your child is being bullied, harassed and assaulted, and the answer should not be to punish her and isolate her from her peers while the perpetrator is let off scot-free to do the same to others. Since he is the one who cannot be trusted to behave properly and not harass and assault other students, he ought to be up front where the driver can monitor him, if not removed from the bus entirely for a period of time. |
Anonymous
+10000 |
Anonymous
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Underreacting. PPs have good advice.
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Anonymous
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Absolutely he should be the one who has to sit up front, not your DD.
I have a 3rd grade boy. They aren't angels and can be a little maddening at times, but what you describe is NOT normal 3rd grade boy behavior, and absolutely should be dealt with seriously. I agree with the PPs who say they'd have an in person meeting. Your question is "how will you ensure a safe environment for my child, without restricting MY child's activities." |
Anonymous
| I would have a scorched earth policy on this one OP. |