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| I very much agree with the PP. Immunity to good conscience is not necessarily cause to brag. That being said, when it comes to parenting style, to each her own. |
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| SurelyYouNest: You rock. Awesome post. |
Anonymous
OP Here: Let me just clarify that everything I wrote in my post was a direct vent in response to something somebody has said to me and not a comment on the Moms who choose a different way to raise their children. I do not think that just by virtue of the fact that you have Born Free bottles that you're staring me down in the mall and I have no problem with Moms making baby food or deciding not to let their babies do CIO. It most certainly should apply across the board and I hope that everyone knows that I meant it to. I like your post though, SurelyYouNest (and I like your screen name!). I called my husband after I wrote it and told him I wrote a "manifesto" on DCUrbanMoms. Haha. I like that you used the same word. I didn't intend it to be one but after I posted it, it sure read that way! I really liked the 13:06 post because it shows that we can all agree to disagree and respect each other's choices. I actually started writing this in response to the "DC Moms are competitive" post and the "would you be irritated by this comment" post. I can't imagine anyone doesn't have people saying things that are negative to them about their Parenting. It's as if once you have a child you are free game to say anything to. I know not everyone is going to agree with my choices....actually, I believe NO ONE will agree with every one of them. My own Mother doesn't agree with some of them. I also just wanted to point out that, while we are always arguing on these boards, I do think that people are doing their best. Agree or disagree with how they do it. Also, 14:20 poster, I agree completely with the way you worded your post. Thanks to everyone who has been so supportive! I'd comment on all of the posts if it wouldn't make this ridiculously long but I do appreciate them. |
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Well done! Wonderful post! First, I must say that I love that there were a couple of responses that despite the spirit of your post decided to be judgemental anyway. I hope they feel better now that they have put you--and all of us--on the path to better parenting. What would we do without them! I am hoping that my daughter will still graduate from college and even graduate school despite her exposure to a Bravo! Runway marathon. Her father and I just couldn't help ourselves. Second, I wanted to add that I do not feel guilty about bottle feeding, either. Instead, I feel irritated that the CVS employee gave me a hard time about not breastfeeding my child when I bought up all the cans of Nutramigen when they were on sale a couple of weeks ago. Gave me a hard time while there was a line of people waiting behind me listening to her extol the virtues of breastfeeding and lament the fate of my poor, deprived child. (I hadn't heard about the narrow head. That's a gem.) Instead, I feel proud that my daughter is well fed, happy, healthy, and most of all, loved. We all make different decisions as parents. And who are we to judge? So here's to parenting without guilt. Or at least without too much guilt. We all should really get on that babyproofing thing . . . 
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Anonymous
Love this post. I've never felt an iota of guilt when it comes to my parenting. Should I feel guilty for that? 
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maynie
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| This would be a good blog (topic) for the front page. |
Anonymous
| Thanks so much for this post. I think when I was not a parent at a store, I'd look at those mothers with their children who were running amok throughout the store and would say to myself, "that will never be me." HA, what a joke, that has been me so many times that if anyone has ever said anything to me, I shoot them daggers of hate with my eyes. I think we all need to remember, until you walk a mile in another mother's shoes, you don't know all the burdens she's carrying. Thanks OP. BTW whoever mentioned Project Runway-Love it! |
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| We should also be careful not to interpret every look as one of disdain when our kids are not behaving their best. Once I was waiting for an elevator with my DS who was in his stroller in one of his rare quiet moods. When the elevator arrived, a lady walked out with a toddler screaming in his stroller. I gave her what I thought was a sympathetic smile because I had so been there but she looked daggers at me and snarled " I suppose yours are perfect!" and stormed off. I was so shocked but also really upset that she thought I was looking down on her. I almost ran after her to tell her she had misunderstood but I thought better of it. |
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Both OP and SurelyYouNest are my HEROES! 
I wish I had each post on my (work-issued) BlackBerry while in the hospital the night before my scheduled c-section. (Not scheduled around work, breech twins. Not that I need to justify anything. :wink 
These should be copied to the Expecting forum ASAP! Now where's the "not guilty" manifesto for dads? |