Would you be annoyed by this comment?

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[Post New]02/20/2008 23:38
Anonymous
I would be annoyed, but I would also just let it go. This person obviously doesn't understand what it is like to be a mother, and work outside of the home, even if it is part time.
[Post New]02/21/2008 09:08
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Working part-time is the most difficult. When you are at work you think about all that needs to be done at home. When you are at home you think about work. Plus, because you have a shorter time at work, I bet you have to do a bit more of DH's jobs too. Do you pick up his dry cleaning? I sure do. I hear you loud and clear OP, let's raise our glasses and toast to ourselves!!


Let's be careful here. As a person working full-time, this comment is probably as frustrating to me as the original comment posted by the OP. I don't think any of us can really assess who has it the worst. It is pretty stressful for me to have to be completely 'on' at work 8-5 (sometimes more) as a manger, then get to daycare pickup, then cook dinner, then do laundry and clean, then prepare lunch for the next day's daycare, then get DD ready for bed, then walk the dog and then collapse into bed. Wake up at 5, run with the dog, get DD ready for daycare, get myself ready for work. Still manage DD's DR appointments, the dog's vet appointments and my own appts when I'm supposed to be at work all day. And oh, feel guilty about leaving her too. Not to make this a complaint all about me but my point is that PT work isn't the 'most difficult' nor is FT work nor is being a SAHM. It is challenging for all of us and I don't think you can say which is the most difficult.
[Post New]02/21/2008 09:21
Anonymous
OP here. I just wanted to clarify something based on a PP...I did not mean for my post to sound as if I am ungrateful for the time I have with DD. I am VERY grateful that my situation has allowed me the time that I have with her. However, my husband and I have made some pretty major sacrifices to do so, and as we all know, the work doesn't end when we get home.

I agree that no one can judge which is the "hardest" PT, FT , SAHM, I think we all have our challenges on a daily basis. And of course those without children have challenges too...but that was my original point!! We shouldn't be judging others and assuming they have it made when we haven't walked in their shoes.

Anyway, I am over my anger about this now, as I prepare to go back into work. I know I can't expect everyone in the world to understand what my life is like, and how much it has changed over the past year...in most ways for the good, but change good or bad can be stressful.

I thank you all for your comments and support and suggestions on how to handle this better next time it comes up.

[Post New]02/21/2008 09:29
Anonymous
I think we can all agree that no matter whether you are full time SAHM, part time paid employee, or full time paid employee (and I've been all three at different points) it is a massive juggling act full of challenges. I don't think any parent gets off "easy". Maybe you do if you are so loaded you can farm out absolutely every tedious, onerous aspect of running a household and raising a family, and just do the fun stuff. But I don't know any of those parents.
[Post New]02/21/2008 09:55
Anonymous
This actually made me laugh - I remember sitting at my desk 8 months pregnant...just begging for the baby to get here so I could quit and "lounge around" all day. Ha! I've never had a harder job than being a SAHM. It's definitely not the chocolate and fluffy pillow life I thought I would be having!!! So naive...

Disclaimer: I'm not saying being a SAHM is the hardest job. I'm saying it's the hardest job I've ever had, personally.
[Post New]02/21/2008 11:01
Anonymous
You know...I wouldn't. Some people are just snarky. And some are just jealous. Ignore it and know you've got the better deal.

My husband says to me (I'm a SAHM) that I'm on vacation everyday. I know he knows that it's work, but its his way of teasing me.

Hang in there.
[Post New]02/21/2008 13:20
Anonymous
I cut back my hours (and pay) to 30 hrs/week after baby #2 arrived but will have to go back to FT when he turns one (employer gave me the option to temporarily go PT for one year). As a working mom of two, I realize that working PT is a blessing -- and I wish I could keep up the reduced schedule. While I realize that you aren't going home and sleeping, you are able to spend more time with your child as well as more time doing household chores. FT working moms don't have that luxury. And as one who has lived in both worlds, I assure you that you have the best situation right now -- so who cares what anyone else thinks? Ignore snarky comments and enjoy what you have.
[Post New]02/21/2008 14:20
TwinsinAdMorg
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Anonymous wrote:She sort of snorted and said," yeah, but that's still pretty nice. " NICE???? Do any of you other moms find cleaning messy houses, poopy diapers etc a "nice" time?




If it was me, I probably would have said, "Yeahhh, duuuuude, it's pretty suh-WEEEET! [Imitating someone from MTV] You should try it. How about tomorrow? You take my kid and the chores and I'll take half your paycheck. Nice, huh!"

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