He doesn't want any intimacy but won't give me an open marriage

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[Post New]07/31/2017 15:59
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Anonymous
16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:01
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Anonymous
Easy fix



[Post New]07/31/2017 16:03
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Anonymous
So leave. He's not giving you what you want. Move on.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:03
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Anonymous
Take care of yourself. Don't ruin your family for a screw.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:04
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Anonymous
Match him up with the other asexual lady on here!

Seriously, no apologies, get out. Don't cheat, divorce and do it the right way.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:04
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Anonymous
What is your question exactly?

1) stay with him and have no sex. Can you do that?
2) Divorce him and find a partner and have a healthy sex life and possibly a great intimate relationship.

Personally, there is no way in hell I would let him make me celibate like that, but that's just me. No person that truly loves you would do that to you. Who the F does he think he is????
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:05
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Anonymous
Do you have kids? How old?
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? How old?


How is this even remotely relevant?
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.


Change a few details and you could be my DH. Guess what, if you've been threatening divorce for years then you should just pull the trigger already.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:09
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Anonymous
Have you tried to initiate?
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:12
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? How old?


How is this even remotely relevant?

NP here
I wouldn't ruin my kids childhood for sex.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:32
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Anonymous
Have you asked him why? Does he have any idea? He ld be gay.

Agree with pp don't destroy the lives of your kids over this.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:49
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:16 years married, he's always been low drive, but ok with once a week. Now, it's zero drive. We have had zero intimacy for the last 4 years (almost 5 years). He won't do anything about it, yet told me that if I go elsewhere it's cheating and he'll divorce me. He's great in all areas except no intimacy. We are roommates. I want a husband, not a roommate.


Find a lover and don't tell him.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:50
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Anonymous
Just have a discreet affair.
[Post New]07/31/2017 16:52
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MikeL
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PM me.
I'll help you out.
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