Saw coworker's daughter smoking... WWYD?
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Anonymous
| She's 22. If she were 12, I'd say something. |
Anonymous
| She's 22, MYOB |
Anonymous
| OP, out of curiosity, what would you tell the daughter if you did decide to pull her aside? |
Anonymous
| Let me guess OP. You are same person that calls CPS if you see a kid alone in car for 1 minute when a parent is paying for gas. Amirite? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| OP, get a life! |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
I love it that you are concerned about this young woman's smoking habit. But you shouldn't mention it to her mother. |
Anonymous
| My God, you sound like some of the losers on this board. |
SuZQ154
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Wow! This situation is confusing and would depend on the relationships of the people involved. If OP's relationship with Mom is friendly and supportive, then I might tell Mom.
My differing opinion stems from thinking what I would appreciate if OP's daughter were my own. I would want to know. Not to tell my daughter it is unhealthy or wrong, but I would want to help if her smoking is an indication of something else going on her life. My daughter had an eating disorder in college I wish I would have known about sooner. Her friends thought it was "none of my business". I wish they would have told me. Praying for the right decision. |
Anonymous
And the daughter might have taken up smoking over the stress of her mom involving her in everything in her life. Smoking is seriously gross, but the daughter is an adult. MYOB. |
Anonymous
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I certainly butted out when I saw my neighbor's adult son smoking in the back yard. If he was smoking pot I would have said something to the parents, otherwise it's not my business. Later, my neighbor complained to me that the son's girlfriend was leaving empty cigarette packs in the house and I still didn't think it was right to mention that it was the son, not the girlfriend who was smoking.
Perhaps if it were a relative or a very close friend, things could be said, but tattling on legal behavior by an adult is over the line. |
Anonymous
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Seriously OP? Count me as another person who opened this thread expecting it to be about a 12 year old. But 22????
She's an adult. Has been for a while. If she is smoking in her car, mom likely knows. If she is smoking in the house, mom knows. If mom knows and is upset about it, your busting her kid is going to embarrass her, and is not going to make the situation better. And if she has found a way to smoke without mom finding out, she will keep smoking. Just out of curiosity, do you also tattle on 22 year olds having a beer? |
Anonymous
| This has to be a troll. There is no way anyone in their right mind would see this as an issue. No way. |
Anonymous
Right! And she may be smoking as a crutch, because she gave up an even worse habit. |