Anonymous wrote:54 year old single guy. I prefer women around my own age but some have issues with sex caused by either a crummy relationship or physical issues that all/most women eventually face. I have no desire for a 30 something as I have no desire for more children. So that means the 40-47 year old is the sweet spot. I'm lucky that I've been able to meet people without using the dating sites, mostly through friends, business or sports. The one exception to all of the above was a fabulous 63 year old I met on vacation in Europe. She was a challenge to keep up with!

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ddintysons wrote:I am 53 year old single man and like the online stuff.

Yes but like all men in their 50s, you are looking for 20- and 30-somethings not 50-somethings like OP.

Anonymous wrote:I am male, early 50's, but not single. I am not looking to cheat. But, my experience is I prefer the company of people within 10 years -- we get the same references. I was talking to a colleague who completely missed my "As God as my witness, I thought turkeys could fly" when I heard I had to go to Cincy for work. ...

Anonymous wrote:I'm 50 and have dated men in their mid to late 50s. I would think they'd not want to play games but the ones I'm running into just want FWB. Maybe I'm just meeting the wrong men?

ddintysons wrote:PP - Would you please give us an example of the games they are playing? Is it ghosting (i.e., they will call and then disappear) or pretending to single when they are married?

I am divorced (53 year old man) and have been in the dating world about a year. Trying to learn as much as possible as fast as possible.

ddintysons wrote:PP - Would you please give us an example of the games they are playing? Is it ghosting (i.e., they will call and then disappear) or pretending to single when they are married?

I am divorced (53 year old man) and have been in the dating world about a year. Trying to learn as much as possible as fast as possible.

Anonymous wrote:

ddintysons wrote:PP - Would you please give us an example of the games they are playing? Is it ghosting (i.e., they will call and then disappear) or pretending to single when they are married?

I am divorced (53 year old man) and have been in the dating world about a year. Trying to learn as much as possible as fast as possible.

I'm not the PP to whom you're directing your question, but this is a fairly good description at what I've encountered "out there" in the wild west of online dating:
https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/the-confusing-and-horrible-rise-of-the-several-night-stand

Mixed messages, confusing on and off signals, pursue & pull back cycles... it's very frustrating behavior that I never encountered when I was younger and meeting guys in real life, before the existence of online dating. Not sure why this is more prevalent now It's probably the appearance of "abundance of choices" that online dating provides. Everyone is always seeing a bunch of faces and apparently limitless possibilities on their screens and thinking that surely there's someone better than the perfectly nice person whose company they're enjoying right now. So people find it hard to focus on one person at a time and allow a real relationship to grow and flourish.