I couldn't wait for my DD to be big; now I miss her being little

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[Post New]02/26/2017 16:11
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Anonymous
You can borrow mine for a few days. I could use a break.
[Post New]02/26/2017 16:47
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Anonymous
That's funny. Seriously though, I feel that I learned much about being a good parent along the way and now it'll go to waste. I do not want to be a full time foster mom but it would be great to find a "Big brother" type program.
[Post New]02/26/2017 16:50
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Anonymous
I just saw they have Big Sisters too!
[Post New]02/26/2017 21:14
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Anonymous
It is has been a really rough couple of weeks with my 6 and 9 year old kids. Your post brought me to tears right now.
[Post New]02/27/2017 22:29
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Anonymous
OP, you need to learn to live in a present and to enjoy your time with your daughter now. It is a very good stage in her life to spend more time with her. Once she get married, you will be pushed even further away.
[Post New]02/27/2017 22:58
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Anonymous
I get nostalgic too Op.

The worst is when I see young families out and about and I see myself in them and remember back when my kids were following me like little ducklings or when I take a walk down memory lane and come across old photographs.
[Post New]02/27/2017 23:27
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Thank you for this post. My kids are 2.75 and 9 months and I'm already feeling the time slipping away. I simultaneously wish my older child would stop having so many tantrums and don't want her to stop being a cute little nugget. I wish my baby would sleep and nurse better and I can't wait until he starts talking so I can get to know him, but I also want him to go back to sleeping on my chest. I'm so exhausted that I'm always trying to get through it, but I hate myself for wishing the time away. I have been making a conscious effort to be more present and your post is a good reminder that it will be over before I know it.


PP, I could have written this - I feel the exact same way, although mine are 2.75 and 5 months . It's so bittersweet, isn't it?
[Post New]02/28/2017 08:08
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to learn to live in a present and to enjoy your time with your daughter now. It is a very good stage in her life to spend more time with her. Once she get married, you will be pushed even further away.


Not if OP sets off to sabotaging her daughter's relationships and enlisting her DH to scare off potential husbands/boyfriends!
[Post New]02/28/2017 11:16
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Anonymous
Tons of women go through this, especially those who were SAHM's whose days revolved around their children. Being incredibly busy is the best cure.
[Post New]02/28/2017 11:16
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I can remember older people saying things like enjoy them while they are young -- so true!


My kids are 1 and 4, which means I'm tired all the time. Kids still occasionally wake up at night, kids rotate being sick, kids constantly need something. My parents, my inlaws and random old people tell me when the kids are young is the happiest phase as a parent. My reaction is, what, this is the peak and then it's downhill??? I get this might be when they are the cutest. My 4 year old is not as cute as when she was 2 or 3. But if they are saying this is also the best *parenting* phase, it's depressing.
[Post New]02/28/2017 13:11
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I get nostalgic too Op.

The worst is when I see young families out and about and I see myself in them and remember back when my kids were following me like little ducklings or when I take a walk down memory lane and come across old photographs.


My kids are in this adorable stage where they follow me everywhere and I love it. I know it's so fleeting so really trying to savor it, even when I would really like 15 seconds to go to the bathroom by myself.
[Post New]03/01/2017 15:26
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Thank you for this post. My kids are 2.75 and 9 months and I'm already feeling the time slipping away. I simultaneously wish my older child would stop having so many tantrums and don't want her to stop being a cute little nugget. I wish my baby would sleep and nurse better and I can't wait until he starts talking so I can get to know him, but I also want him to go back to sleeping on my chest. I'm so exhausted that I'm always trying to get through it, but I hate myself for wishing the time away. I have been making a conscious effort to be more present and your post is a good reminder that it will be over before I know it.


My DD is near 2 and while I'm constantly exhausted, every day I feel a simultaneous pang of excitement and sadness at how much she has changed. I look forward to seeing what the next day/month/year will bring, but miss how she was yesterday/last month/last year. I miss when she was that little blob that lay against my chest sleeping for hours a day yet can't wait for her to really start talking and telling me how awesome preschool is. I already miss the child she is today and can't imagine how much my I will miss this ten years from now or even more, when she's 18 and flown the coop. Oh man, now I'm starting to cry!
[Post New]03/01/2017 16:15
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mshakespeare
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Anonymous wrote:Every day I tell my dd to not get any bigger. Best times were when she was a tiny infant in our arms.


+1

I have a 3 month old - and her mom keeps saying how big she is getting - but I just see my tiny infant... I love her more than anything in the world - she is so tiny and adorable... even her mannerisms and her smile... she is so alert - you can tell she is taking in everything.
[Post New]03/01/2017 16:21
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Anonymous
Mine are teens and yes I too miss them being little. Back when hanging out with mom was the best thing ever.
[Post New]03/01/2017 16:26
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Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can remember older people saying things like enjoy them while they are young -- so true!


My kids are 1 and 4, which means I'm tired all the time. Kids still occasionally wake up at night, kids rotate being sick, kids constantly need something. My parents, my inlaws and random old people tell me when the kids are young is the happiest phase as a parent. My reaction is, what, this is the peak and then it's downhill??? I get this might be when they are the cutest. My 4 year old is not as cute as when she was 2 or 3. But if they are saying this is also the best *parenting* phase, it's depressing.


We don't all have the same experience. Maybe you'll like their teen years more? My mom really enjoyed me the most from 14-30 the most (so she says).

I just love this baby period. She is a miracle and every day we're more obsessed with her. I don't think I could let her grow up if I knew I wouldn't be able to have another.
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